" My soul mate, Beta Beta Bertaleeda "

by Molly
(Pittsburgh)

I lost my perfect soul mate " Beta Beta " two weeks ago. Yes there are millions of awesome memories that I will have forever, but right now I can't think of anything but how she has lost her life, and that myself and my other babies will have to live without her for the rest of our lives. She saved my life more times than any one human being ever did. She was there for me with only unconditional love and effection and tenderness for almost 17 yrs. I will never be the same person I was, now that my one true love is gone. Everything I see reminds me of my sweet Beta Beta Bertaleeda. She loved to eat the grass, and then she would lay in it for hours if I let her. I am still torn between burial and cremation. What do I do, which decision is the right one ? Please, can anyone who has gone through this, help me, as time is of the esscence. :(

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Jan 08, 2013
Cremation
by: Sherrie

We lost our little princess Minx on Sunday, January 6, 2013. She was 18 1/2 years old. We chose to have her cremated and she will be buried with me when my time comes. This is a very personal choice one has to make and I'm sure you will do what is right for you and your precious Beta Beta.

Oct 05, 2012
"My soul mate, Beta Beta Bertaleeda"
by: Doreen U.K.

Molly there is no right or wrong way to lay the one who has died to rest.
Surely someone would have some knowledge of what the person's wishes were before they died? In the Bible it says that when we die Our soul (breath and character) goes back to God who gave it and our body (which is the shell) goes to the earth. God created us from the dust and that is why we go back to dust as in a BURIAL. The Bible also says Ashes to ashes for those who want cremation.
Muslims only believe in burial (Cremation is a curse to them) Sikhs believe in Cremation.
My husband and I didn't like to talk of death. Who does. We tried to avoid the subject. But when my husband was in a hospice dying of cancer the chaplain came and asked us about Death and how we would do this. I told the chaplain that my husband's family didn't believe in cremation and my husband wanted to be cremated. This put me in a tough position. I wanted to honour my husband's wishes. I also wanted to respect my husband's family. My husband knew there would be problems. In his WILL he stated that he would leave me as his wife and our family to decide on his funeral arrangements.
After my husband died on May 5th 2012. My in-laws became out-laws. They came to my home and quarrelled with me for wanting to cremate my husband. My nephew pleaded with me to "Not burn his Uncle" With the support of my family we all came to a decision. I didn't want to feel guilty going against my husband's wishes for a cremation. I didn't want to offend my in-laws by having a cremation. Since my husband gave me permission in his WILL to make the decision. I GAVE STEVE A BURIAL. (A grave for 2) I will be buried with him. But after the funeral my in-laws gave me HELL. My nieces persecuted me for even mentioning the word CREMATION. Saying their uncle would never have asked for this. They cursed me. They harassed us. My brother-in-law went to the graveyard posed as the father and bullied the grave staff to clear away all our flowers. This same brother-in-law went to my daughters workplace and bullied her into cleaning up her dad's grave. The wind and bad weather had caused the untidiness. In the end the harassment was so bad we had to involve the police. My nieces told such lies and made us come accross as the ones in the wrong. Yet I honoured their wishes and gave them what they asked for which was a BURIAL. I hope that you won't be confused and know what to do. It is a very hard time for families and it is easy to be concerned about this area.

Oct 05, 2012
what to do
by: Anonymous

i am really sorry for your loss I know how you feel it is aweful,
cremate your baby and get the ashes back. i did that and i have the ashes i have time to decide what to do with them eventually. it has been three weeks for me and only now am i thinking about what will be the best place for my darling to enjoy his eternal sleep.

Oct 05, 2012
what to do
by: Anonymous

i am really sorry for your loss I know how you feel it is aweful,
cremate your baby and get the ashes back. i did that and i have the ashes i have time to decide what to do with them eventually. it has been three weeks for me and only now am i thinking about what will be the best place for my darling to enjoy his eternal sleep.

Oct 05, 2012
Your difficult decision
by: Denise

Cremation was the right choice for me. I have Gazoo's urn in his memorial in my office bookcase so he is always with me. His essence is still here.

God bless you during this time,
Denise

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