11 months have passed since I lost my husband to cancer...

by janice

We expected it, there were no available tests or treatment. We knew from the beginning we were losing him- and then in only a few short months, he died. August 18, 2013. Almost a whole year- it seems like a lifetime since I saw him last. 10 children are grieving- my 5 have lost 2 fathers. I am doing as well as can be expected. I took lots of time off work to heal- I needed it. I am a Christian and I believe his spirit is in Heaven- away from all the anguish that happens to people on earth. No more pain and suffering. Rest in Peace Cal.

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Jul 20, 2014
Deepest sympathy
by: Lawrence

Hi Janice,
Everybody on this web site has been through the same pain and anguish at losing a precious loved one, as you, and regretfully there are no words in any language to help you with your heartache.
It must be so agonizing to watch someone you love more than life itself slowly ebb away in pain.
I consider myself so lucky, my dear sweet wife passed away in the blink of an eye, one minute talking the next dying,I was closing her eyes and kissing her goodbye a couple of hours later on her deathbed ,and thanking her for an exquisite seventy years of love and passion.
Eighteen months have passed and I am still bereft and miss her terribly, but the fact that I am able to post this comment to you will perhaps tell you that there is light at the end of this tunnel of grief, the tears will not fall so easily, although I must admit I cry nearly every day and anything can start them, just seeing a couple kiss makes my eyes brim with tears, but although I will never get over losing her I have accepted she has gone and live my life accordingly. as you will one day.
I am a songwriter and have composed dozens of songs to try and express my deep love for her but there is absolutely no way I can play any of them now, the tears just flow if I try.
Be patient with yourself, you will never again feel as bad as you do now, although I know that is no consolation.
My deepest sympathy

Jul 19, 2014
11 months have passed since I lost my husband to cancer.....
by: Doreen UK

Janice I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved husband. Good that you honoured your grief and took time to nurture yourself through this. None of us knew what the grief experience felt like till we went through it. I lost my beloved husband of 44yrs. to a deadly cancer 2yrs. ago. His cancer was terminal having carried this disease in his lungs for 40yrs. A young man in his 20's going to work for his family and cut asbestos that killed him. Died at age 65yrs. and missed the retirement he earned. It does feel like a lifetime ago. Knowing and Believing in God is our HOPE. We know that the body dies but the Spirit goes back to God who gave it. WE just wait on God for our Healing, and to be reunited with our spouse when He comes back for us as He promised. Let us comfort and encourage each other as we move forward in Faith.

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