2 suicides, 2 attempted suicides and 5 more deaths in 8 months.

by Christine

7 dead, 2 were suicides both found hanging from a tree, one day after another. It started with a gamer friend in Feb., then an Aunt I did not know well. I was sad I had not known her better since she was married to an Uncle I loved, but they moved out of state and I did not see them much. Then the mother of my husbands 5 nieces died. They were all grown, the youngest just barely, but all were devastated. I hurt for them, even though I was not that close to their mom.

Then a co-worker died of a heart attack in March. I had trained with him 15 years prior and known him that long. He was younger that me by 6 years. This one really hit me.

Over the next few months a niece in her early 20's was hospitalized for an attempted suicide. Her mom, also my sister was not even going to tell me. That hurt. It was the nieces live-in boyfriend, father of their child, that filled me in. Then a nephew, only 13, made an attempt. He was chatting online with me frequently, since we live so far from each other, and told me how he felt. I was able to get a hold of his pastor and child protective services was involved, so he went to a hospital for a few weeks.

While I was busy trying to keep this nephew alive, my other brother's 17 year old son hung himself on Aug 23rd. A day later my coworker and mentor was found hanging from a tree. I was devastated at my own loss and for my younger brother and wife who lost their only son. This was just too much.

But no. My father died a month later, a very painful death. I have not been the same since. It is overwhelming. My siblings were not as close to my dad as I was. They do not grieve as I do. My sister is very cold and not much nice to say, even though she lived with him the last few months. She was in charge of everything, had his ashes shipped to his out of state wife who was in the process of divorcing him, and did not even want to have a memorial here. She said she had already done her grieving and said her goodbyes in the nursing home, where the hospital sent him, to finish out his last 3 or 4 days. The rest of my siblings live so far away. I don't even hear from the oldest and youngest any more. They did not bother to come. I think I was the only one that kept in touch with my dad regularly, when mom divorced him and he eventually remarried. He move out of state, but I called or sent emails with photos of my kids on a regular basis. We even took a vacation to see him. No one else did.

My husband and kids (9 & 13) are angry, and yelling at every one. I can not comfort them and they are too angry to be a comfort to me. It is hard not to have someone to share my grief with.

When will this end? I feel so alone. Some days I want to be with my dad again.

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Oct 22, 2011
Too Much To Bear
by: Judith in California

Christine, all of this loss is too much for anyone. Please take your kids and husband and run to the nearest Pastor or Psychologist for help in dealing with this. It's too much for you to sort out on your own and your kids are acting out because they are too young to understand all this death. They need help to talk and sort it all out.

I pray for you all and that you come out the other side of this unscathed emotionally.

My heart aches for your circumstances.

Please take care of you too.

Oct 22, 2011
by: Cookie

I am so sorry for all of your losses. That is a lot to bear. I thought I was a poster adult for tragedy (my blog under "Poster Children for Tragedy").

I could say the same. I didn't list all the tragedies I have been through the past 11 years. All my people and pets have died and that is many in this time frame.

Oh my dear your tragedies are so different. Really personal. I hope you are not scared for life. I pray for your salvation and that of your family. No words can express what you are going through or feeling. Grief takes along time to work through.

I pray that you will find peace from all this. God bless you and keep you in his care. Hugs and prayers.

Cookie in Virginia

Oct 22, 2011
Here Are People Who Care
by: Geoffrey Campbell

The readers who come to this site care, but also I want to assure you that there is One who not only cares, but listens. Prayer helps, I have seen some real miracles, we even had a patient healed which was a genuine miracle, as one of our workers prayed for her. There is a verse in the pages of holy writ which says, "Ye have not, because ye ask not." Tell God your troubles, ask Him for help and the strength and wisdom for this terrible time of sorrow, for you are not an orphan, you have a loving, heavenly Father who loves you more than any spouse, parent or friend ever could. I too, will pray for you dear.

Oct 21, 2011
My prayers are with you..
by: Vickie

I am beyond words...my heart and prayers go out to you. I have lost a lot of people in my family over the last 8 yr's and only have a few family members left. This has been hard for me. The hardest was losing my youngest daughter two yr's ago in an awful car accident-she had just turned 26. I can't imagine that your mind is even able to wrap itself around any of this and overwhelming is the word that comes to me as I write this. I am not married but I do have a fiance' and he gets aggravated with me at times. I know he doesn't mean to but he doesn't understand the losses I have had-especially my daughter. Death is an awkward and uncomfortable thing for most. I guess people aren't often sure what to say as the months go by after a loved one passes..I will keep you close in my prayers. Try and hold onto the strength you seem to have an enormous amount of. I am sure you are exhausted and tired and want to scream or hide under the covers. Just know there are people such as myself out here that care and understand the depth of loss. Take care-Vickie

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