by Norma
(Kerney NE)

I used to look forward to Feb 22..George Washington and my husband's birthday! It was a day I made my husbands favorite birthday cake... Double layer yellow cake with chocolate fudge frosting. Now, for 4 years, I only celebrate the memory of my husbands birthday! He went into the hospital on Christmas eve 2008 and died on New years eve, just one week after we found out he was full of cancer.This birthday is bothering me more than most. I can't seem to think of anything, or do anything that doesn't remind me of him. And the tears flow.
Happy Birthday Pat!
I really miss you when I'm sad.
I miss you when I'm Lonely.
But most of all,
I miss you when I'm happy
and you are not here to share it with.

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Nov 20, 2013
birthday party
by: Cheryl

My husband's birthday was 2/20 and we used to celebrate each year with a simple dinner out and of course his favorite, ice cream cake.
After he died in Aug 2012, I dreaded his first birthday alone. Instead of sitting home alone and crying I was bound and determined to celebrate his life and his birthday. So I invited our friends and family over for his "birthday party". I had his ice cream cake, complete with his name on it, a huge memory board with pictures of our and our friends and families life together and my daughter even brought and played his favorite Big Band CD's. The grandkids were running around and playing, people were talking and laughing and everyone remembered him with happiness. Yes, at times it was a tough day to get through but my tears were limited to after everyone left.
I have decided to hold a birthday party for him each year so that everyone will continue to remember that wonderful man we all knew and loved. It helps me get through the day and it gives me a reason to eat ice cream cake!

Feb 24, 2013
by: Doreen U.K.

Norma I am sorry for your loss. It just may be that it has taken you this long to feel your loss. I lost my husband to a deadly cancer 10 months ago. We were married 44yrs. It is the hardest grief to get over. The loss of a husband or life partner is so painful and hurts us forever. WE go through life broken and struggling in so many areas each day. It is a battle that will be ongoing for all of us for some time. Keep writing here till you are able to receive the support you need.

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