3 Parents/Close Loved Ones in 3 Months

by Roblynne McDuffie
(Columbia, SC)

On August 23, 2013, my mother (who I had witnessed all summer suffering from stage 4 metastatic cancer) & my stepfather (whose body was extremely worn out from years of dialysis treatment) both went into Hospice--my stepdaddy that morning & Mama that afternoon. At 1:00pm the very next day, my stepdaddy passed away. Three days later at 10:41pm with me by her side holding her hands, Mama passed away.
Three months later, on November 14, my aunt (my mom's oldest sister) who I lived with during my teenage years, unexpectedly had a major stroke. On November 22, she passed away.
I still feel so alone without them--especially my mama. She was my best friend and the one person who could truly understand me. This is the worst hurt that I've ever felt in my entire life.

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Mar 31, 2014
I'm so sorry
by: Anonymous

I don't have much advice, b/c I am in pain and can barely muster a sentence. But I want to say to you how sorry I am, to lose your parents and aunt...three people you love so much and were so close to. It's so true, it takes time. Enduring the hell one day at a time. You'll eventually get through it. It's just going to be horrible for a while. Hugs

Mar 23, 2014
Thanks so much.....
by: Roblynne

I need as much prayer as possible, as I will keep both of you in my prayers as well. It is a very difficult road, but my faith is what is keeping me going. God bless both of you!

Mar 21, 2014
i understand & will pray for you
by: the last musketeer

i feel your pain and can relate to every word you posted.

God will keep you in his healing hands, and their memories remain alive in our hearts, prayers, photographs, and our daily talks with them.

they are watching over us and know of our sadness and how much we miss them, and they feel our pain too, but remember it was never goodbye, but so long for now.

this is what helps me get through each and every day of losing all my loved ones and being the last musketeer.

we must never forget them......and always remember so they too live on in our hearts and memories until we reunite with them again, God willing.

you will be kept in my daily prayers, and please reach out because grief group therapy meetings do help (every hospital has them, just contact the hospitals or the hospice center and they will advise you).

above all may God Bless and keep you safe, and give oyu the understanding and wisdom to accept what you cannot change, but go forth knowing with each step you take your work on earth is being done, and for that they all will be so proud of you. we are but a fleeting nanosecond in time here on earth, but eternity last forever.....

Mar 21, 2014
3 Parents/Close Love Ones in 3 Months
by: Doreen UK

Roblynne I am sorry for your loss of 3 dear close people from your life in such a short space of time. It is bad enough losing one person without losing many close to each other. You never get the chance to process each loss and grieve individually. All you feel is this unbearable pain coursing through your body and tearing you down. All you can do presently is to TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME. Try and put key supportive people in your life to help you cope with the grief journey. If you find the struggle too difficult you can go into grief counselling. This support is invaluable. It is going to take a long time for you to feel anything again whilst you are in so much pain. I lost my husband to cancer 22 months ago. The days ahead were the very worst ever. I could not function for 6 months. I did nothing but watch TV to block out the pain I had no control over. I felt as if that Raw Grief pain would kill me. I still have crying sessions and this is how it is going to be for some time.
I hope in the days ahead that you will find the support you need and that God will comfort you and lift you out of the deep pain you are in right now and give you His Peace.

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