5 STAGES OF GRIEF


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Although the Kubler Ross model of grief has also been called "The 5 stages of grief", this is another working model, or staging of grief that we will discuss. It introduces some additional, useful  concepts on the process of bereavement.

There is no set timetable to grief, of course, and all of these staging models are meant solely to help you understand some of the commonly experienced emotions and changes you may encounter.

The danger in any "staging" of grief is that it may give people a way to "buttonhole" you into a convenient little category, and predict how you should progress next. And grief just doesn't work that neatly.



The 5 stages of grief:

1. NUMBNESS & DENIAL-
The first reaction to a loss, numbness or shock can help cushion the blow and can help you get through the initial mourning rituals with the family and the funeral. This stage can last a few hours, days, or even a few weeks.

2. YEARNING & ANGER-
The numbness wears off, and the painful realization of the loss hits full-force; you will yearn deeply for your lost loved one. You may be angry and have regrets of things left unsaid or dreams never realized.

3. EMOTIONAL DESPAIR, SADNESS & WITHDRAWAL-
The storm of intense emotions of the second stage gives way to a period of heavy sadness, silence and withdrawal from family and friends.

4. REORGANIZATION-
Reorganization and the beginning of positive emotions- Over time, the sadness stage will start to lessen, and you will begin to see a lightening of your emotions. You will start to perceive your life in a more positive light, although bouts of grief and sadness will persist, probably for the rest of your life.

5. LETTING GO & MOVING ON-
The final phase of this model is to let go of your need for the lost loved one and to move on with your life. Sadness will lessen greatly, and new interests will gradually occupy your thoughts more and more, crowding out the misery and desolation. The final stage is when you "pull your life back together".
 



All of the grief models stress that you will never fully "get over" or forget your lost loved one. The grief process allows you to integrate the memory of your lost love into a more manageable place in your psyche and heart so that you can resume a more functional and bearable existence. The process works.
 


           HEARTBROKEN FROM GRIEF?

~Are you devastated by the loss of a
    loved one?
  ~Bewildered by all the strong emotions
     and crazy symptoms?     
  ~Wondering how you are ever going
     to survive?
  ~Tired of being stuck in a complicated
     grief?


 
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