A Christmas wish for us all...

by Hope
(Tappy Happy)

Wow...Christmas is a week away and I am stronger than when the season started. I hope the same for everyone here. For those not having a blessed break from grief I wish you well and ask you to come here often.

I am able to walk in a business and deal with the Christmas music; it is somewhere far away as I try to get what I need and get out. I will be the first to admit that it did feel like a knife stabbing me, reminding me exactly what I had and lost at first.

I know how hard it is seeing the faces merry this time of year and thinking well, you haven't lost have you?

Think that it is possible that maybe one out of 20 have and managed to come back and enjoy this new life that they themselves did not want either.

My best to all here struggling and much thanks for helping me through this awful year, I can never thank you enough for the survival skills that I never knew that I was capable of...

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Dec 19, 2010
Each day brings you closer to peace within
by: me again...


It hasn't been easy, and I am not done with my grief walk. The special days are now ones to be worked through. Anniversaries, Birthdays, and all the regular holidays are a bittersweet mix of memories. Be patient with your self and go easy. This is the hardest thing that I have ever been through in sickness and health every worry, fear and joy in my 50 years on this earth.

If I can manage through it you can too. I am not especially courageous and Still miss my Love, always will. You do what feels right and necessary and you will be o.k. I promise...

Dec 18, 2010
A Christmas wish for us all
by: Donna

Hope, I am glad that you are doing well this Christmas. I long for the day when I can get through the seasons doing as well as you and others on this site. I know that it has been a long, hard journey for everyone and I want to thank you and everyone on this site and I wish you all a very merry Christmas. You and everyone who comes to this site truly have the Christmas spirit all year long. You help give peace and love (all year long) which is what Christmas is all about. I can't bring myself to decorate yet but I'll have to soon, if nothing else Christmas eve. so that when the grandbabies get home from their dads there will be some sort of Christmas decorations and festivities. Bryan would want that. For everyone, God be with you and merry Christmas.

Dec 17, 2010
I've noticed too.
by: Barbara

I have noticed that this year is not near as bad as last year with the Christmas music. My daughters and I spent a mother/daughter day today and went shopping. I even found myself singing with some of the songs. I just put everything else aside and had fun with the girls. I took them out of school for the day and went for it. Now that we are back home well back to the same old feelings. I did escape them for a bit and it felt good for a change. There are some things about this second year that seem harder than the first but it also feels easier in a way. Randy's birthday is coming up on Tuesday and I have a feeling that will be a hard day on me. I'm just thankful I had today. One step, one breath. I know I can do it.

Dec 17, 2010
Dear Hope
by: Anonymous

Yes, you are indeed a survivor. Over time, we manage to move around in the same world with everyone else and we have no idea who is actually living with pain the same as we are. You are right. Holiday music is hard to listen to. Christian music was hard for me at first because all I'd do is weep. May God grant you perfect peace in our imperfect world during a season of both joy and pain. Gracie Please write me at: impossiblejoy@yahoo.com if you'd like to chat.

Dec 17, 2010
a christmas wish for us all
by: Jules

Hope - thank you for your wishes - and sharing how well you are doing. No, others have not lost what we have, so they can't understand what we are going through.

But, live on we must, so we should try and do this with as much joy and peace as we can. Spend time with loved ones, especially children, send wishes to your lost love.

One step, one breath at a time
Take care
To all on this site
Have a peaceful and joyful Holiday season


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