A Dream Team

by Kerry

My mum died 10 weeks ago. For 28 years we were a team, raising my son together, I worked she was at home for him. Surrounded by love as he grew he is a good parent himself now.
Mum and I shopped, went to galleries and exhibitions, a holiday together 10 years ago was the best ever. We laughed at the same things, did quizzing together. We also fought, shouted at each other and on occasion stop speaking, but not for long, we shared living space so not practical. No matter how I was her love was unlimited and unconditional. Good advice and support was her role even if I didn't always appreciate it at the time.
For the last six years I have been her carer, watched her physical then mental capacities diminish but she was still mum. After a short bout of pneumonia she died and my world fell apart. This team built of love, respect and support has gone and I am totally lost. I cry every day and struggle to find a meaningful future for myself. All I can do is take a day at a time and try not to disappoint her memory by giving up on life. I will never fill the hole she has left, I hope there is a heaven, I pray that one day I may see her again. Amen.

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Aug 04, 2012
A Dream Team
by: Doreen U.K.

Kerry I am so sorry for your loss of your mother. YES! there is a HEAVEN and you will see your mother again.
You had a full relationship with your mother which has left a VOID in your life which can never be filled. Crying and crying is all one can do as the pain of grief sets in and leaves us very bewildered and wondering how we can go on without our loved one. It is hard now having to start a new life all over again and wondering where to begin. Let alone whether we want to or not. It will take a long long time. You will be able to move forward when you are ready. Grief is not to be rushed. You, Me, all who suffer a loss will have to find our way out of our sorrow and find a life that we can live. It won't be the same. We don't have a choice. It isn't an experience I am looking forward to. LONLINESS, and EMPTINESS, will walk with us day to day and this is what we have to fight our way out of. I hope that you have other family and friends who will be able to support you in the days and weeks ahead. I wish you all the best in trying to forge out your life that will be meaningfull.

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