A Friend's child has passed, My son and the boy who passed were best friends
Hi my name is Ashlee, I have recently went through an experince that is hard to explain let alone type so I hope not to lose anyone with this. Recently I took my children (3, 1 1/2, & 3months) to a local swimming spot in our local river. When i arived there a close friend's (& reletive to my husband) three children ages 6, 10, & 12 where swimming. They we're there without adault supervision. So being conserned when myself, my children, & friend's had finished swiming I anounced to these other children that it was time to go and I wanted them to come with me so that i could take them back to there house. While fighting them to leave along with my own children my friend's 6yr old ran back into the river. I looked down at him and told him once-more that it was time to get ready. next i had picked my 1 1/2yr old up and placed him on the upper bank. When I turned back to ask the 6yr old once more to hurry along he was gone. I asked several other swimmers and visiters to the river if they had seen him and everyone said no. I then asked everyone still swimming to start diving and see if anyone could find him. As soon as people started diving I called '911' I waited for the police to show when they did everyone was asked to leave the scean. I must say becuse of how upset I am with my local police that they we're useless I made the call to '911' at 5:20pm police showed up at 5:45pm even though I told them several times that he was last seen in the water they waited untill 6:45pm to start the diving team. At 7pm the little 6yr old boy was found and pronounced dead at the scean. ='( Many people around me have pointed the blame to me... and in so many ways I have blamed myself. It has been about a week since this has hapend and im slowly moving on. But the 6yr old boy who passed was my 3yr old son's best friend. Now my 3yr old son says he's playing with the boy who passed all the time. He also tell's me that the boy drowned and is gone and wont come back. It seems that he understands that the boy has passed but still mentions at every activity how the boy is with him. I don't know how to help him cope. I worrie that he will get frusterated with the fact of no matter how much he says he's "playing" with the little boy but never really see's him again. As a person I feel lost, confused, blamed, hurt, and sad at this little boys passing but am more conserned for my 3yr old son. If anyone has any tips please let me know! Thank You.