A Letter To My Mother

by Lynn
(SeaTac, WA)

My Mom..Ardeth Arlene McBride

My Mom..Ardeth Arlene McBride

My Mom..Ardeth Arlene McBride
Mother's Day 2012 - 4 Generations
Mom and oldest Great Grandchild and my Dad
Mom and youngest Great Granchildren and my Dad

A Letter To My Mother 3.4.13


I saw you today but I'm not sure you saw me. You were resting and I stood close to your bed and held your hand. I’m not sure you heard me either but I stroked your glistening white hair and told you how much I love you. I read to you the 23rd Psalms; I know it’s one of your favorite passages.

You are an AMAZING woman mom. You've been the anchor of our family for sixty five years. You and dad have created a strong and loving family. You’ve taught me the difference between right and wrong, love for family, how to do for others before even being asked. You really never had to speak the words, you taught by example… You were always there for anyone who needed you… they never had to ask, you just magically appeared and did whatever needed to be done.. You've taught us to have faith in God in whatever situation we stand before. I don't know if I've ever said thank you to you for all the things you've done for me. But I did today.

You expected high standards of your children, so many rules we thought we had growing up… but only to realize they were intended to help us for our own lives out on our own. You were quick to reprimand but even swifter with your soft hug and gentle kiss on the cheek after explaining that it hurt you more than us to call us to task when we needed…

Mom, I also told you that I don’t know what I’m going to do when you’re not here… You’ve always been the go to girl... When I didn’t have the answer I knew you’d always have it. I found in you my nurturer, my teacher, my confidant, my mentor, but most of all, my best friend. There is a bond between a daughter and her mother that cannot be explained.

So many things I still have to learn… I hope you’ve left a lot of notes stashed somewhere in all those diaries I’ll have to read through... I promise you I’ll do the best I can…We’ll be here for dad, the grandchildren, great-grand children and the great-great grandchildren… But I told you today, my life will never be the same again without you in it, or anyone else who loves you as much as we do…

But the most important thing I told you besides how much I love you is, don’t linger here because of us. We’ll be okay; we will get through this journey…. You need to begin your own new journey… And what an amazing beginning you are about to experience. It’s okay to go..

Ardeth Arlene McBride ~ 11.04.30 - 03.05.13

Mom left this earthly plain at 8:30 a.m. surrounded in love by five generations created by her and dad 65 years ago. What a wonderful experience of being able to be with her, tell her how much she was loved, hold her hand and talk about the memories. She passed in peace and love and entered Heaven to a joyful celebration and reunion with loved ones who had gone on before. Welcomed with open arms from the Father Himself and I'm positive she heard, "Well done good and faithful servant", Until we see each other again mom... Rest well in Him...

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Mar 06, 2014
A Year Has Gone By...
by: Lynn McClure

My late husband had a saying, "Life is like a roll of toilet paper.. The closer it gets to the end of the roll, the faster it goes." It's so very true.

Yesterday was our 1 year 'Sadaversay" in the loss of our wonderful Mother, Wife, Grandmother, Great Grandmother, Great Great Grandmother, and Sister. In one moment the time working up to the actual day that week was oppressing, fearful, sad and yet joyful in the fact that we knew that there were many out there remembering her.

I miss her SO much as does my dad and other family members.. 65 years of being married is hard to realize that person is now gone. Dad did very well... He is still puttin' along at 85 years old, staying busy but I know he misses her terribly. I am proud of him.

I'm still numb, sad, angry, fearful, and all the other words that goes along with losing a loved one. I put one foot in front of the other and go about the day just because it's there... Joy has not returned yet, but I believe one day it will.

We continue to add to our family, and it's wonderful to watch it grow... But I live at the other end of the spectrum knowing that there will be more loss when dad goes home and the rest of us in our own time. I truly believe that this is not our final home.. It's just a stopping off place for somewhere that is much, MUCH better than what this old and tired world has to offer. I enjoy it while I'm here but I am SO looking forward to the peace and joy that I know my Mom and late husband is experiencing now.

Prayers for healing go out to the others whose notes I read as they come across. It's not easy, and it really doesn't get better.. We just learn to adjust and deal with it on a different plane.

Ardeth's Daughter... Lynn

May 16, 2013
Soo Loving You Also Sweetheart:
by: Anonymous

Lost My Sweet Moma April 17...(Your post was just a God's blessing...)..I just take each & every day for my Moma...(I still SOO miss her!!!)

May 12, 2013
Happy Mother's Day Mom
by: Anglhrt

This being my first Mother’s Day without my Mom reminds me of other dear friends who are also separated from theirs. I’ve been thinking of her so much this week especially and now today even more so. I’m in a very sensitive mood today after celebrating with my children last night. My son and daughter presented to me a sterling silver heart necklace with a small topaz above the crook in heart and it was inscribed on the back “MOM” 11-4-30 – 3-5-13. The front of the heart was a laser reproduction of her thumb print. They said they call them “Thumbies” and they can be made in all types of jewelry. It took my breath away and for some reason helped me to feel that she was so very close to me. Fingerprints are one of a kind and cannot be replicated from anyone else. I now have her “stamp of approval” for the rest of my life on a beautiful heart around my neck now and forever. Mom’s birthstone is a Topaz so her stone is a light yellow, it goes beautifully with the sterling silver.

I know that life is a circle and it does go on, even when we don’t want it to.. And eventually we get caught back up in it and our joy that seems to have been stolen from us will return. In the meantime my prayer for all of us who are separated from their moms is that we can continue to remember them with more joy as the days go on and less of the pain of the loss. It will happen in time but it sure does hurt bunches when it’s so fresh.

Love to you my dear friends, know that I’m thinking of you on this special day.

Apr 24, 2013
by: Federico Lambea

I may not read more. My tears are in my eyes. God bless them!. And I wish the best. I can't no more.

Apr 22, 2013
A Letter to My Mother
by: Doreen U.K.

Lynn I am sorry for your loss of your mother. What a lovely Memorial from you about her life and her place in your life and her family.
She was a woman who you have honoured in this way. Thank your for sharing your story.
One good legacy she left you is her Spiritual Beliefs which will give you the Hope of seeing her again and being reunited. Best wishes.

Apr 21, 2013
Awesome God!
by: Bill Q, Guam

My sister in Christ! My Condolences to for the passing of your Mother. Thank you for your story and testimony. You have Blessed me so much, I too lost my Baby Brother. March 15 2013 and found comfort With the family and in The Word Of God! Only Jesus can give you that Peace that is above all understanding. May the next generations to come bless you with such an awesome testimony of you as you have of your mom. God Bless you and thanks again, Awesome!

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