A mother's worst nightmare-The loss of my Dear Tim.

by Lynn Schlaefli

In the early morning of Sept.12,2012 my world came to a crashing halt. The knock on the door by two police officers saying our son was tragically killed in an auto/semi truck accident. I thought I must be dreaming, but I couldn't slap myself hard enough or pinch myself awake. I was awake. My screams & crying awoke our whole household. Terror & total disbelief was throughout our home. No,no,no,no,no this can't be real. Our sweet,sweet boy. He was 24 years old & had a home-based computer business,so I was a privelged Mom to see and talk with my Tim every day. He was on a trip several states away when the accident happened. Therefore, we didn't get to touch, kiss, or carress his hair for 6 days after. It seemed as though we just walked through the motions of life. Planning your childs funeral & trying to give him a proper,respectful burial was heart wrenching. We have been blessed with 5 beautiful children. Tim was our middle child, the glue. I can't even express to anyone that reads this how heart wrenching this is. Not being able to see his beautiful smile. His happy outlook on life. A friend of his wrote a tribute to him that honors his memory well, it reads,"Tim was a man who refused to be bound by what other people envision as the path of his life, Tim wanted nothing more than to experience this Earth on his terms." He will be forever missed. Tim touched so many with his kind heart and humble personality. His arms were always open for wonderful strong hugs and an I Love You. Ohhhhh, how very much I miss my sweet,smiling Tim. There will never be a day that I won't long to be with him. God Bless You Tim, & I'll never stop loving you. WHY???? I just can't seem to understand!! Heartbroken forever.

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Sep 28, 2012
A mother's worst nightmare - the loss of my Dear Tim
by: Doreen U.K.

Lynn I am sorry for your loss of your son Tim. such a tragic accident. Such a successfull life and it is lost forever. This is what hurts so much. My husband was a talented carpenter. he worked all over the world. He had richness in his life experiences. All LOST when he died of cancer 5 months ago. He died slowly over 3yrs. For us it is also a very slow Grief. A Pain that goes on forever. I have 3 Adult children from 32yrs. to 43yrs. and I dread anything ever happening to them. I feel so vulnerable after my husband died. I feel everyone is going to leave or die. This is the worst experience you could ever go through. It is every mother's biggest Fear and concern. The thought of losing any of her children. I feel your pain. You may benefit from some grief counselling. My sister had to use this support when she lost her Adult son.
I sometimes feel panic stricken and can't believe my husband is gone. He isn't coming back. To lose a child is a mother's worst nightmare. At least if we have a nightmare we wake up and the nightmare STOPS. Nothing will STOP our PAIN. It goes on forever. HEARTBROKEN FOREVER. Every day will be a battle for us to survive without our loved one. May God comfort you and your family every day and give you all peace.

Sep 28, 2012
Mothers worst nightmare
by: Louisa Okoro

To all Griefing Mum,

It is the most unnatural thing to loose a child, the pain is unimaginable. 10 years after, I have still not come to terms that my Alero passed away to be with the Lord. Its a nightmare I still think I will wake up from, but we all know it is not possible. As I always tell myself 'reflect on the positive and touch lives possitively in her memory'. It is working for me and I know it will work for you.

Sep 27, 2012
by: yolanda

I'm so sorry for your loss, my daughter died Sept.11, 2012 suddenly in her sleep. I'm still in shock,angry, sad for my daughter Michelle she was so happy for her birthday coming Sept 24,2012. She would be 32, Michelle was beautiful with the most beautiful smile, she would brighten the room with her smile and hugs. I told her story on this link. God Bless you my email is picturesque_media@yahoo.com the lost of a child is unbearable!

Sep 27, 2012
same thing happened to my special son
by: rayolife

I know how you feel. It has been 4 years for me, and the pain and depression is never ending. Just try to do as many possible things in his memory, to make the world a better place!

Sep 27, 2012
by: Wendy Evans

Reading your post brought back terrible memories as I know what you are feeling. Many of us on this website know. It is unimaginable in the beginning. Your loss has cracked through everything you knew to be true and right in your life. I remember the heaviness of just existing was horrific. Nothing helps and I realize that fact. Just know that you are not alone on this road and many others will gladly read and reply to your posts and in a virtual way, circle around your broken heart to hold you up.

Sep 27, 2012
From another grieving Mom..
by: Christine

So very sorry for your loss! My son died of an anyurism on une 2, 2012..Like you, I will never ever stop missing and loving him!! When I found this site, it helped a lot....people on hear really do understand and care. Please, take care and my prayers are with you!!

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