A special gran

My gran passed awsy on the 19 October.

She has been bedridden for a few years in the nursing home, this started around 10 years ago when she started having a medical condition called Alzheimer's.

Its tough when you watch your gran's personality change, being the favorite grandchild, watching an illness take over and making life unbearable at home, forcing us to take her to professional care, knowing once in, she will never come out.

She had a good, healthy long life, if I knew that this would happen in the last 10 years I would of tried harder to be a better grandson. If I had the wisdom I have know back before dementia set in, still watching her suffer I guess with the end she can have peace, no more suffering.

I lost my other grandmother to cancer, what is worse, Cancer or dementia, I don't know. As time passes I will forget the sad and remember the good, she will always be with me in my heart till my dying days.

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Oct 21, 2012
A Special Gran
by: Doreen U.K.

It is hard watching someone's personality change. I had to watch my husband's personality change in 2005 when he developed ADEM. (Acute
Disseminated Encephomylitis) A virus which attacks the brain and leaves the individual often in a coma for 3-6 weeks then they are left with brain damage. My husband was fortunate that he recovered. In 2009 he was diagnosed with a deadly cancer and died slowly over 3yrs. I had to watch my husband slowly die in severe cancer pain. You are right it is cruel to watch someone suffer. The only blessing in death is that our loved ones are at peace and out of suffering. But we do miss them.
You say you were a favourite grandson. I was a favourite daughter but I did as much as I could for my mother that was humanly possible. I have maturity on my side. You sound YOUNG so don't beat yourself up thinking you wish you had done MORE for your gran. This is your grief making you feel this way. In Life we all wish we had done more for our loved ones, but we have a tough life to live in today's world and I guess if you were able to have had done more for your gran you would have done so. Just FOCUS on what you did do for your Gran and build on this. You will live a good life.

Oct 20, 2012
Lest we forget
by: Author

With a family myself, the important thing out of all of this, is to let the next generation know about our special gran, not to let time erase all memories, to gather around and tell stories, good stories of a special gran.

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