A wonderful man & awesome Dad

by Linda
(Menasha Wi.)

My Dad & me in Fl

My Dad & me in Fl

I lost my Dad yesterday afternoon at 2:05.
Not only was he my Dad, but he was also my best friend. We went through alot together over the years, I helped him take care of my Mom when she had colon cancer and passed away. He helped comfort me when I lost my husband to a sudden heart attack on Jan 21 2013.
His health was failing and he was in alot of pain, he said he was ready to join my Mom, so I guess it was a blessing when God took his hand and led him to heaven to be reunited with the love of his life. It sure doesn't lesson the pain, it is so hard to let him go. He was such an awesome sweet man always willing to help others unconditionally. I knew I could turn to him for help, support and comfort. I miss that already. Who am I going to turn to now for inner comfort?
He was my main focus after my hubby passed, and that kept my mind occupied and the sting of losing my husband at bay. Now I feel so alone and really am having an extremely time coping. I don't know anymore how one goes on. I feel so confused & lonely. My brother & sisters all have their spouses to turn to for comfort and I am being told ya but life goes on. But what they DON"T understand is that is so much easier said then done. I feel like I'm going to crawl out of my skin. I try to turn to God but feel like I am facing a brick wall that doesn't have an opening. Where do I go from here? It's weird to say but if I didn't have my furry kids that depend on me I would just like to join my hubby, mom & dad. I'm tired. I wish I had an answer!!!

Bye Dad I Love You Always & Forever......

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Jul 21, 2013
So Sorry
by: Mona

I am so sorry to hear this news and I have to say I know what you are feeling as I lost my beloved father in March this year. I still have rough time. Don't let anyone tell you to get on with life. That is just crazy when you have been through all you have been through losing a husband just a few months ago. I tell you I so related to your story because I feel all alone too> I took care of my father for 27 months here in my home and there is not a day that goes by I feel he is coming home:( I have not been on here much as I fell sick after his passing but I am ready to read and try to help or comfort those who are going through the same thing> When I seen your pic of you and your father it reminded me so much of my father and me. NO one will ever take his place and someday (but not now) you are right we will all be together again. God Bless you and hope to hear back from you Ms. Linda.

Jul 14, 2013
So sorry
by: Anonymous

Hi Linda,

I am so sorry to hear about your father. I lost my father on January 14th to sudden cardiac arrest. We were also "two peas in a pod". Even though I am a grown woman, and have a family of my own, I would turn to him for comfort, advice and laughs. He always knew what to say, and I miss him terribly. I don't think my grief is getting better, and at times I feel like I am going to jump out of my skin too. I have found a lot of comfort on this site. Know that you are not alone. I wish you peace. Barb

Jul 14, 2013
Awesome Dad--to Linda
by: Anonymous__Mi

Linda, like you and Doreen and many others on this site, I too have lost my husband 7 1/2 months ago and grieving the loss. I am so sorry that you have suffered so many deaths in your family---life is not fair and it is not easy. I find my grief is worse now than it was at first---but I am trying to look to God each day for strength to move forward for my children and grandchildren. At times, I still cannot believe that my dear husband and best friend is gone. I have only God to help me through this--our families love us but they have their own lives and their own pain. This journey is ours and ours alone except for God who will not leave us alone even though we do feel that way many times. His promise is real and we can count on Him to give us strength and hope. God Bless You in this most difficult time.

Jul 14, 2013
Thank you
by: Linda

Thank you so much Doreen for your kind words of wisdom and taking the time to answer. I am going to turn over a new leaf and stop feeling sorry for myself and too push myself to go on, because I know that's what my Dad would have wanted for me and would do for himself. Along with being a wonderful man he was a stubborn man. My hubby would always say my dad & me were like two peas in a pod.
All my best to you & I hope everything works out for you. Take Care.....

Jul 14, 2013
A wonderful man & awsome Dad
by: Doreen U.K.

Linda I am sorry for your loss of Mom, husband and now Dad. It has only been 7 months since you lost your husband and probably didn't grieve for him and now you have lost your dad yesterday. How are you supposed to feel? It is no wonder you feel the way you do. You do have permission to feel like not going on in life. Best thing you can do is find a good counsellor to give you the time and space to grieve all your losses and then you will be in a better position to get your life on track. The early days of grief are the worst ever. I lost my husband of 44yrs. 14 months ago to cancer and it is a tough battle still. We never know when grief is going to end. It just goes on and different memories surface and when we least expect it we find ourselves in tears and feel depressed. This is normal. What is not normal is the way your family are telling you to get on with your life. They have no idea how grief and loss feels. some siblings may be jealous of the relationship you had with your dad? Which is why they are dismissive of your loss. I have 3 adult children all living their own lives and I don't see them often but for the daughter who lives at home but goes off to work and I am left alone to just get on with life. I don't feel like doing much most days. I do what I want when I want. Hoping one day I will get some sort of life back. Losing a husband was the worst loss ever for me to cope with. Two hearts that beat as one. Now mine beats ALONE. I believe in God. Sometimes He feels far away. But God is kind to Widows/Widowers. He knows our loss and He will be with you in it. God is all we have ever had. He started life and He ends life. You will see your loved one's again when Jesus come back for us. HOLD ON TO LIFE. HOLD ON TO GOD. He will come through for you. Go to Church and forge new friendships and relationships. Sometimes we do need our siblings but they are not there for us. I have 5. and not all will be helpful, and can be hurtful. But we soldier on. Best wishes.

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