a year after my precious husband died

by Teri
(Calif)

2 yrs ago tomorrow my husband had surgery for colon cancer. The docs thought that they had gotten it all. They didn't. For almost 6 months he went through chemo and died a yr after he was diagnosed- a year ago Jan 28. My journey has been touch- I lost him at the age of 57. Far too young according to what the world thinks. However, in the journey I have experienced the grace of God- I have a hope because I know that my husband is at home with the Lord, and one day I will see him again. That does not erase the grief though. As a matter of fact these last few days have been extremely rough. I cry at the drop of a hat. Sometimes it is the little things that make me remember. I am very thankful for the wonderful memories that I have with him. We were almost married 30 years. God blessed me with a wonderful man and I know that he is dancing with Jesus. I miss him terribly- and some days are worse than others, but I continue on because I know that all things do work together for good!

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Feb 12, 2012
To Lori
by: teri

Thanks for responding Lori- Our stories really do seem so similar- just a day apart. It is hard, I know, I will pray that God will comfort me as He is me!

Feb 11, 2012
Colon cancer
by: Lori

Oh, my! Your story sounds like mine. My husband passed away last January 27th. Yours the 28th. He had colon cancer and fought the battle for 11 months from diagnosis. He was 51 when diagnosed but 52 when he passed. We miss him so much but haven't found a site that I can connect with others that have been through the same experience. I would like to talk!

Feb 11, 2012
response
by: Teri

Thanks so much for responding to my first post. I just came across this site last night. It is wonderful when we can come alongside others that experiencing the same thing. God is good, and I know that some days will still be very hard. He was my first love. It was love at first sight, and our relationship grew and grew as we spent our days together. Thanks so much again.

Feb 11, 2012
a year after
by: Mari

Hi Teri, I am very sorry for your loss. I am glad you realize that your husband is safe with the Lord. To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.
A year is really not a long time since your loss. It takes time for healing to take place. Those feelings you have are very normal under the circumstances and it is important to stay close to the Lord. Sometimes you will have bad days and others not so bad.
You have come to the right place. There are many caring people on this board, always someone to listen.We are here for you.
Take things a day at a time.At some point you will feel healing taking place.
My husband died 2 yrs and 3 months ago and I am doing better. My whole life has changed and I stay busy with 2 jobs but I still miss him.Living in this small town with all the familiar places is not easy.Everything reminds me of him.But now I think differently because he was so sick and it was time for him to go with the Lord. I always wonder how he would like the way I fixed the house. The grandchildren still miss him a lot.
I hope you have people close to you that can bring you comfort and keep yourself busy. God will be with you through the hard times. Take care and keep posting. We care for you. Mari

Feb 11, 2012
One Year
by: M Mack

Teri,
I'm sorry for all who are left to survive without our other half. I didn't think I'd make it and now almost 19 months later, I'm here going through the motions of life. I depended heavily on this site after my loss. I stumbled upon it 1 month after he passed and found hope that I can and will get through this. I know I'm not alone and everyone has a story that belongs to them. No matter what or how different or similar our stories are, we all say the same. Our feeling of loss is there and we need recovery to get through this. You will meet him again, and that's what keeps me going. We need to hang in there. I've been reading what others say and commenting less. At this point in my life, I am trying to move ahead but I know i am my worst enemy. We will get through, as time moves on. I pray for comfort for all of us as we continue this long and lonely journey. You are in my prayers. Hang in there!

Feb 11, 2012
One Year......A Long Way To Go Still
by: TrishJ

Teri~
I hear you girl! It was 14 months for me a few days ago. I too have a tremendous faith. I've come to terms with my husband's death being part of God's plan. I know I will see him again. Joe and I were married for almost 38 years. I was 19 when we met and almost 58 when he passed. None of my friends have lost their husbands. Part of me feels so cheated. The other part of me knows I was blessed with a wonderful love that some people never experience. I just miss him so much. I very foolishly thought the one year mark would bring this grief screeching to a halt. What dummy I was. I thought, ok, I've made it one year. Walked through the 4 seasons. Experienced all of the emotions. Some days I've had lately are actually worse. I'm so lonely but in no way anywhere near ready to begin another relationship. I have no desire for that.
Little things can reduce me to tears too. Valentines day is a tough one for me.
We just have to keep plugging along. Does it bring you comfort to know you aren't in this alone? We're all here at this site for each other. We all car.
God bless. I hope you find something to smile about today. Hang in there.

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