Abbigail Bee Craig

by Aaron
(Canada)

Abbi enjoying a slurpee!

Abbi enjoying a slurpee!

My little girl, Abbigail, died on July 12/13, 2012 from SIDS/SUDC. She was a perfectly healthy toddler, a few days short of being 1 year and 7 months old. On July 12, my wife and I found her face down in her crib, when we pulled her out instantly we knew she was dead, but we gave CPR until the ambulance showed up, where they then took over and took her to the hospital where the doctor declared her dead.

Really, she died on the 12th. As I said before, when we pulled her out of her crib, I knew she was dead right there and then. So that kinda makes me mad, always seeing July 13th as the official doctor declared certified death date, rather than the ACTUAL death date on the 12.

Autopsy, toxicology and genetic testing have all come up negitive for any cause, leaving it at Unknown.

I am really, really, sad. We have a 5 year old as well. It crushes me that she lost her sister and will likely feel the way I do about losing my child for the rest of her life.

The saddest parts for me is that Abbi won't get to grow up and live her life, and her sister will forever be affected by this. Not fair for a 5 year old to have to deal with that.

I miss my Abbi so much and YEARN to hold her and love her and look at her and comfort her. Love you baby!!!!

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Jun 09, 2014
Our daughters share an Angel Date: July 12
by: Anonymous

All I can say is that I am so saddened for you and with you. Abbigail is precious. The loss you must feel is something only a grieving parent can understand. Our daughter, Michaela killed herself (though we believe accidentally) on July 12, 2013. As this date approaches, I want you to know that I will remember your daughter.
I also told my story here under "loss of a child" and I think the entry is early April of 2014. Much love to you as the anniversary date approaches for the 2 year mark, and for every lonely horribly sad day in between and after. I get it.

Dec 29, 2012
Such a beautiful angel.
by: Jayme

I am so sorry shes is beautiful... I just lost my daughter to sids on October 27 2012 shes was 17 months old and beautiful healthy striving baby shes my angel i miss her dearly and I dont know how to deal with it .. I have 2 other babies Aaden my son about to be 3 and Micaela My 4 and a half month old.
they are both hurting badly they miss their sissy.

Our angels are in heaven playing together.

Dec 17, 2012
I lost of 5 yr old
by: Anonymous

I lost my oldest boy, 5 year old in July 2012 and unable to deal with 2 year old who's still asking for his bro...

I know personally how hard this is, losing a child. Am unable to over it, rather live with this pain.

It seems that happened yesterday, I was talking with my boy all of a sudden he died of fever(Flu-B)

You should get strength soon...definitely we get strength as we didn't die with our lost child (which I preferred to)

Please calm down yourself as we have no answer at all other than JUST live with this pain.

Nov 09, 2012
BABI ABBI
by: louisa okoro

WHAT A CUTE ANGEL, LOVE HER WITHOUT KNOWING HER. I PRAY GOD TO COMFORT YOU.WE CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND WHY THESE THINGS HAPPEN.IT IS PERMANENT HOLE IN THE HEART, AN INCURABLE PAIN THAT YOU HAVE TO SURRENDER TO GOD, HE ALONE CAN SOOTH THE PAIN. GIVE YOUR DAUGHTER ANOTHER SIBLING OTHERWISE SHE WILL SUFFER THE LOSS THROUGHOUT HER LIFE TIME. I AM OVER 5O NOW BUT I STILL FEEL THE PAIN AND EMPTYNESS OF THE LOSS OF SIBLINGS THAT PASSED BEFORE I WAS BORN. THE EMPTINESS I FEEL NOW MAY NEVER HAVE ARISEN IF ONLY MY PARENTS GAVE ME ANOTHER SIBLING.

Nov 09, 2012
I lost my sister at age 6
by: Jennie

Aaron,

I'm so sorry for your loss.
My older sister, Paula, died at age 8 from a sudden illness when I was almost 7. There was only 16 months between us, we did everything together and shared a room. I'm 37 now and it's still hard to talk about her death.

I remember my parents coming home from the hospital. Both in their bedroom crying. I asked what was wrong and they told me my sister had died. At that age I wasn't sure what that meant. I remember many of my parent's friends avoiding them because they didn't know what to say.

The pain of losing my sister has never gone away entirely. But it's gotten less intense over time.

My parents (nor did I) never got any professional help after my sister's death. Which I believe was a mistake. But I know my parents were doing the best they could. I never got to grieve my sister, visit her in the hospital, or go to the funeral. Mom and dad kept all their feelings to themselves. We never talked about my sister's death.
It wasn't until my 20's I was in rehab for a drug problem that Paula's death came up. I told my therapist that I hadn't been happy since my sister's death. When mom heard that she started bawling. That was the first time I realized how much my sister's death affected me.

I understand the pain and loss. I know that taking about my feelings has really helped. It's takes a long, long time to get to a "new normal".

God bless.

Jennie


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