by Orla Cahill
(Dublin )

I broke up with my boyfriend about 3 year ago !
We lived together for 2 & dated each other for 6 years in total it was a hard period but I got over it !
He cheated on me so that may it easy , I will say I take my blame as I am not perfect & had faults too
I did however lean on a male friend at the time probably depended on him to much ! I eventually told him I like him as he was giving me signals he like me for a long time !
So we both liked each other that was out in open I was relieved as I think I liked him since we met 10 years ago ! We were friends so long !
But it then came out he had been seeing another girl & it was serious I was crushed !
He never gave me a chance so we have not spoken since ! I just found out he is getting married & I am devastated !
I do wish him well & hope he is happy but the pain I feel awful I just can't move on with my life as I have lost the ability to trust men or care for someone I prefer to be on my own as I wouldn't get hurt that way again !
I don't want self pity I just need some advice that can help me to see something in someone again I feel everyone deserves happiness !
I feel I am pretty levelled head & I have made mistakes but I am been punished a little !
Would love to hear comments !!

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Aug 22, 2014
by: Doreen UK

Orla a lot of the decisions we make have a lot to do with our MATURITY.
You have taken responsibility for mistakes made, so this is being mature.
The other male friend you knew for 10yrs. has probably had a close relationship that he values and wants. It is painful when you can't have the person you love and want to spend your life with. Because he is marrying someone else should not cause you to MISTRUST MEN. You will lose out on life otherwise and live a lonely life.
You need FOCUS. Take the focus off your hurt feelings. No use pining over a man who loves someone else. This will help you mature by not focusing on your hurt feelings but looking outside of what is happening and seeing it for what it is. You can even go for some counselling to help you make the best decision for yourself when you do finally meet someone. Counselling could help you see areas in which you could develop better and you may attract the right person and find your own happiness. Best wishes.

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