Absolutely Devastated

(Saskatoon, SK)

My husband of 28 yrs has told me he is leaving me. I had found out he was having an affair at Christmas, but I wanted to work on our marriage and I thought everything was going good. How can a man give up his, home, kids and destroy a family without any kind of word of explanation?

He turns everything around and blames me for everything and that I am all at fault. He did this right before my 50th birthday, just after I had given him a celebration for his birthday. How can anyone be so cruel? I have been off work due to stress related issues, and now he hits me with this news.

He expresses no remorse and no explanation and tells me I don't deserve one. I was on the road to recovery and would have soon been returning to work, but this has set me so far back, farther back than when I went off work. I do not know if I can go on, this devastation has ruined me completely. I only see a black hole for the future. Pretty pitiful.

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May 27, 2010
by: Anonymous

Oh, I feel for you. I know the experience of seeking undersanding of how someone can do this type of thing to someone they claimed to love and then not care and not even give closure through an explanation or anything. I'm so sorry. I understand the devistation...I'm feeling it too...and it's okay to feel that way. How can you feel anything else? You gave everything to him. But somehow we both can move forward from this. We can. I know all we see is this dark hole and feel like we'll never escape, but we can make it. Pray for strength. We can do this...know you are not alone. There are many feeling this pain with you because we know exactly how it feels because we're going through it as well. I wish I could take both our pain away by some miracle, but we can make it.

May 15, 2010
I'm so sorry
by: Anonymous

My goodness, you deserve so much better than that. I feel for you and pray you receive the support you require. Hope you find peace and learn you are not alone.

May 11, 2010
Opportunity is Waiting
by: Donna Maria

You are not devastated....You are lucky. Now the lie is over and you can pick yourself and have a good life. Can you really imagine living one more day with a man who doesn't love you?

Now, you have to opportunity to spend the rest of your life in the truth, free to love and be loved (once all this pain subsides). Sometimes the very thing that we want the most is the thing that's killing us. You have an opportunity to live happily. It's coming. Be grateful. If it is happening to you that means you can handle it. The sun will rise in your life again.

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