"ABU" I miss you

by jim
(mansfield ohio)

We had 3 dogs already when my wife wanted a tea cup chiwawa that cost 450 dollars. I said no at first we already have three I said but I caved in and let her get him. He was so small he could fit in the palm of my hand. He grew rapidly and we soon realized that he wasn't a tea cup that we got jipped.This dog was so loving and cute and a personality that was very unique. Needless to say I fell in love with this little blue eyed fur ball. He was daddy's little buddy and loved to play fight with me and then cuddle under my neck. Im a 42 year old man with 6 children all over the age of 18. I'm a widower at 30 so I know the pain associated with unexpected death.I grieved then for a long long time. My daughter called me at work and told me boo was dead that he was hit by a car and is dead. I came home and we buried him in the yard. It was a hard thing to do. I miss him so much that I can't sleep and my stomach is upset and I'm sickened that we allowed this to happen to him. I feel we failed him. I know he was not a human but I can't stop thinking about him and am so depressed. Im the father of this family and know I should be strong for the rest of the family members but I can't. I'm actually so angry and upset I can't think of anything but my little buddy and the bond we shared.Someone have any advise for dealing with this pain?

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Nov 16, 2012
I have just lost my "Abu" too
by: Susan hacker-Dix

I know how you must be feeling. I lost my dear Abu 7 weeks ago, he was my cat and shared my life for 14 and half years. I miss him so much and I still cry when I look at his photo, I miss his furry coat, his amber color eyes, his purring and not seeing him around the house. I feel so sad-friends say it will get better but I dont think so. Donot feel guilty about your Abu, you couldnot forsee the accident that happened. My Abu had cancer and it was a hard decision to make taking him to he vet, but he is not suffering now.he will be n my heart forever. My wishes go to you and Abu I miss you.

Aug 07, 2012
We're human enough for them too!
by: Marilyn

Hi Jim, I wish I had some advise for you
but I am short on that. The fact that our little guys were not human does not take away from the fact that we are and we loved these little furballs like our children. I always told my only son that Peanut was his little brother.
My husband died almost two years ago and then my long-haired Chihuahua died eight months later. I was totally devastated and still am. I thought I was doing so much better and then I read about your little dog that sounded so much like Peanut.
He was so lovable, but could act so vicious with play fighting, he was a trip.
In the winter, he was like an electric blanket, curled up next to us. But during the summer, my husband would tell me to get that hot box away from him. He loved us both, unconditionally, for 14 years.
We had two other larger dogs, but they were just dogs. Peanut was our baby, our entertainment, our soulmate and companion. Everbody loved him on sight and his personality got them hook,line and sinker. This crazy little dog would chase german sheppards, pitbulls... the bigger the better. I prayed they would not turn around and have him for a snack. They have no idea how small they are!
I also understand your guilt and I don't think there is a death that we don't feel guilty about in some way. My husband and I were returning from an out of town trip, when he told me he could not breath. I pulled into the hospital emergency entrance immediately. He got out of the van, turned around, sat in the wheelchair and gave them his ID and insurance card and they took him right in. I went to park in 95 degree September and realized I had two dogs in the vehicle. I quickly drove home 8 blocks away, to put the dogs in the house and back to help fill out paperwork. But my husband was in a coma, then braindead and gone.
What if? Did they? I should've, I could've...
Eight months later, my little Peanut started going around in circles. I even got onto him, not wanting him to make himself dizzy. I called our vet on Sunday and he was on vacation. I got on the internet and read about this condition and what the vets can do to fix it. Monday morning I took him to a vet and he thought I was very calm under the circumstances. He sent me to an emergency hospital 40 miles away. I guess I was still in shock from losing my husband and didn't understand why people were looking at me so strangely, as I carried this near corpse around in a comatose state. I knew they could fix him! But once again, here I am, What if? I wish I had, I should've...
Now I like to think Peanut went to be with his daddy, so his mommy can take care of herself through this grief. I'm getting better now and just wish he could come back.

Aug 02, 2012
by: Veronica

Hello Jim,

I am really sorry that Boo is gone. I too lost my Boo - Snowy-Boobaloo. My Boo was a beautiful long hair white cat. She also got hit by a car but it was my fault because I called to her and she ran across the street. Of course the car was speeding thru a 25 MPH and never stopped but it was my actions that ended up getting her killed. This happpened on December 12th 2011, she was only 4 1/2 years old. Not a day goes by that I'm not in tears. I wish I had advise for you but I'm still searching for the answer myself. I've lost 12 pounds, can't really be bothered to go out and just work on projects around the house to distract my thinking about the fact that she isn't right near me like she had always been. I too have other animals and they seem to sense my loss but try as I might I can't generate the enthusiasm to play with them the way I played with Snow. I'm 51 years old and its sounds crazy to say this but I have gotten to the point that I feel I have lived enough of this life because I find no real joy to it anymore. Call it depression but its the truth. I hope you find your answers and the opportunity for happiness again. I keep telling myself I will see snow on the Rainbow Bridge I've heard so much about. If I see my Snow I'll look for your Boo and give him lots of kisses.

Aug 02, 2012
"ABU" I miss you
by: Doreen U.K.

Jim I am sorry for your loss of your dog. Grief is associated with LOSS. This has nothing to do with age. It doesn't matter how old you are. You have a heart, a soul, and emotions. When we lose a person, or a pet. WE HURT. We have a right to hurt. It is because we LOVE that we HURT when we experience a LOSS.
It matters not if you have children of maturity. Who see their father sensitive enough to cry over his pet dog. It means YOU CARE. YOU LOVE. YOU HURT because of this loss. No need to be embarassed. Your PRIDE is hurt more. Because men are not meant to cry. This is rubbish. A man who cries at a loss is HUMAN.
I am a 64 yr. old woman. When I was 59yrs. I lost my beautiful pet birds. 3 cockatiels, and a lovebird. My heart broke. I cried and cried. I thought I would never recover. I always disliked pets. Never thought I would ever have one. My daughter brought the birds in against my wishes. I ended up looking after them. Best experience I ever had. I developed a Love for pets that has made me a better person. It brought out my sensitive caring nature. A Bond was developed that will never be severed. You have nothing to be ashamed of by grieving over the dog. It was also associated to your wife so your grief will also have some association. You are a caring sensitive soul. Your children will love you for it.

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