Afraid to be alone in your New Normal

by Judith
(CA)

This is to help those of us who have been left alone . The security we felt with our husbands is gone. We must continue on but we need to feel as secure as we can for now.
I have read so many of you are scared and so am I to a small degree.

Please go out and purchase cheap brooms at the 99 cent store and use the handle in your windows or sliding glass doors. There are all kinds of locking devices some with alarms. Your local hardware store should carry most of them.

I had this type of arrangement in my old apartment and one day I had to call the police because I had seen someone hanging around our street and when he came in and saw all my windows he said it was the best thing I could do.

Also keep a working flashlight on your nightstand and slippers and a robe on a nearby chair. And in case you have a remote to open your car keep it beside your bed too and use that to sound the alarm in your car if someone does try to intrude then call the police.

Keep a normal routine and close blinds/drapes at dusk. Make sure no one can see into your baths or bedrooms in any way. Have a friend go outside and tell you if they can see through your blinds or drapes when the lights are on.

We need to look out for one another and tell a neighbor that if they see your lights on after a certain time or if they see your garage door open then it means you're in trouble. Work out some signal with them to let them know somethings wrong.

Take care and God bless you in your recovery process..