All Too Soon

by Jenny

On February 1, 2013 I received a call from my mom while I was at work. She told me my father was in an accident at work and I needed to come home. The 15 minute car ride from work to my house was the longest ride ever. I prayed so hard that everything was okay. When I got home many of my family members were there, my heart dropped. I was told that my dad was killed instantly after he was crushed by a fork lift at work. It felt as if time started going into slow motion. I will probably always remember every single detail of that day. The pain in my entire family's eyes. My Dad was one of my best friends. He was always the "cool dad", my friends would come over and hang out with him and I. A lot of people I know aren't even close with their parents, and I cherished the fact that I would rather stay home on holidays such as New Years to have drinks with my Dad. The week after he passed was such a blur. I think I tried pretending it didn't happen. There was a few days that I woke up in the morning and forgot it even did happen. As the weeks pass it starts to sink in more. Everything I do reminds me of him because we were so close and did so much together. Everyone says it gets easier with time but so far it's just been getting harder. I'm only 22 years old, so a lot of my friends don't know what to say because they have never experienced something like this. I get aggregated that they don't understand. I've always been the most optimistic person about everything, it's just so hard to see the positive after this. He was so healthy, and being taken away so tragically is so hard to believe. I just hope he's watching over my family now. As much as I wish he were here right now, I know somehow he is with us.

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Feb 20, 2013
by: linda

This happened to me when i was 20. It was my Mother. I felt just as you describe. Then 2 weeks ago my children (in their 20's) lost their father in a sudden accident. I am watching them go through what I went through, which is what you are going through.

There is nothing to say that will change things. That is a hard fact. But I suppose the fact that I survived, and I see that my children will also survive, and that family and friends become closer by going through tragedies together is a comfort.

be patient with yourself as you grieve. Cry all you need for as long as you need. We would, and have, and are still doing the same thing.

God bless you.

Feb 19, 2013
Dear Jenny,
by: Pat

What a horrible loss you are having to deal with. Your pain is still so fresh, like an open wound. It might get worse before it gets better. I only tell you that because I know the journey of grief. I lost 3 loved ones in 2011, 1 of them was my father. I am still grieving. I can understand why your friends don't really know how to react. Not many people in their 20's have lost a parent. That does not mean you are alone. You might want to check with a church or local mental health agency. There are resources to help young adults with the feelings they have, when they lose a parent. Some of your family members may want to go with you. You will all need support. I found a couple of websites that might help: and There will always be a hole in your heart. That's just the way it is, when you lose a parent. But, there are ways to deal with that and to help fill that hole. I wish you the best. I know how awful it is to lose a father. Take care, sweet child.

Feb 19, 2013
big blow to our lives
by: shalini

May god be with you.... my dad too left us on 1 Feb .... a heart failure and in 10 minutes diff it was all over... i too couldn't meet him it took me 25 min to all appears like big bad nightmare and in time i wait somebody to come up and shake me up telling me that nothing is true... that he is very much there....waiting for so that i can tell him how much i love him

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