Almost 30 years.

by sherri

My loss is my husbands and my divorce after almost 30 years. He went into a midlife crisis and decided that all of our dreams of being grandparents, (which we just this year had our first 2) is out the window. He is now out chasing what he can and doesn't want me or the family anymore.

I am truly mourning the loss. I have had people tell me over and over. Not you and Billy. NEVER would I have thought you two. But he began drinking and partying like he was 15 and never looked back.

I am on my own and our kids have their own lives. I am going to Alanon meetings and joining the local theatre group.
I am making decisions that are good for me.
I am lonely but that is part of the grief.
I am angry and hurt. I am tired of the overwhelming roller coaster of emotions but I'm getting help.
I am looking to God more than I ever have before.
I am learning to love life some days.
I'm finding out who my true friends are.

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Mar 16, 2011
Feel your pain
by: Anonymous

I had a similar situation happen to me, but after 24 years. And while I was recuperating from Spine Surgery while taking care of my dying Mother.
He left 3 days after taking me out for an anniversary dinner, in the middle of the night, and left me a 'dear john' letter!

I was devastated. I'm still trying to cope with it all. Since he left, my mother died, have to do something with her things and don't want to, it makes it all so final. Also have to move as the bank is foreclosing on the house.

It just seems too much to bear at times, but I pray a lot and have wonderful friends. No family support, but God on my side.

I wish you the best, and I'm now expecting my first grandchild! Have only seen the ex twice since he sneaked out in the middle of the night and had to do everything in my power not to slap him. He came to my Mothers funeral, and my son's baby shower.

I'm glad I came across this site, but still think I need to get counseling. If I had the money I would!

Nov 12, 2010
Proud of you
by: Anonymous

I'm proud of you and your ability to see what is going on. I'm so sorry. He is immature and so mean to ruin your hopes and dreams for the future after these 30 years. Turning to God is what I have done as well. He is our only constant. I'm glad you have support and you're supported here too. Everyone who reads your writings empathises and feels for your pain...because we know it too. Hoping very good things for you. Hang in there.

Oct 28, 2010
almost 30 years
by: jules

Remember - what doesn't break you, will make you strong - be the best person you can be FOR YOU - just for you. Use this forum in your times of despair - as I have.
take care -

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