Almost my Brother

by Kimberley

My sister's boyfriend passed away unexpectedly just 5 days ago. Even though they weren't married, they had been together for 7 years, each stood up in my own wedding (as a groomsman and my maid of honor), and have a 2 1/2 year old daughter together. I know we are still early in the grieving process, but I can't help but feel an overwhelming frustration and anger with him. He was finally beginning to truly fit into our family; my husband, myself, and even many of my friends were just really getting to know the real him and become closer to him over the past year or so.

I just wish we understood better the circumstances surrounding his death (it was an accident, and so far the "witnesses" accounts just don't seem to make sense), and more than anything I want him to walk through the door right now and tell us it was all a misunderstanding.

I try not to let my emotions get the better of me too frequently, especially because I am now spending a lot of time trying to help my sister and keep my niece occupied since she really doesn't understand what happened; but I just want to scream at him, ask him what he was thinking and how could he leave my sister in so much pain. It's just not fair for her and it hurts me thinking of all the special events and milestones my sister and her beautiful daughter are going to have to experience without Daddy now.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, it really helps just being able to vent amongst others who know the same pain. My fondest thoughts and best wishes go out to anyone who reads this and is going through or has gone through their own grieving process.

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Sep 13, 2010
Thinking of you
by: Grieving wife

You sound like a very compassionate person, your sister and niece are lucky to have you, my thoughts and prayers are with you all at this very difficult time. The grief journey is a hard road, but with the help and kind words of others we do survive> I lost my husband of 25 years to suicide 2 years ago, and I wonder how I survived this long, but it is the help, kindness and sharing of family, friends and people like yourself that pull us through.

Sep 12, 2010
by: Evelyn

Dear Kimberley,
I am sorry for your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
With Sympathies from Hawaii,

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