Alone in grief

by alone in grief
(United Arab Emirates)

I lost my mum 2 months ago. She had been ill the begining of 2011 and my only consolation was that my dad was with her. He stood by her like a rock and did everything he could to make her better. So earnest was his efforts that I was sure she would come out of it. I live in another country and though I spent the last month with her caring for her I somehow am not able to get over her death. Post her death I got busy helping my dad recuperate and relocate.I am now back to the country where I reside and though I have a son (6 1/2 yrs ) who is a handfull I still feel so down. My husband though with me physically somehow has never been of any support in all this. He chose to stay away from all this. My friends are busy with their own life. Don't know if my expectations from a spouse and friends are too high.
For the last 13 years everyday on this day of the week I have spoken to my mom over the phone (when I am not with her). Today is one of those days and I just cannot stop crying. Suddenly I have no one to speak to.
I miss my mum so much! She is the only person in this world who understood me.

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Sep 09, 2011
lost my Mom too
by: Donna

I feel alone too. My mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor June 23rd 2011 and after taking care of her (with Hospice help), she passed away just days before her 61st birthday and was actually buried on her 61st B-day.

Since then I can't seem to go on. She was one of my closest friends and a caring wonderful mother. She made me feel special, smart, beautiful and loved. I'm lost without her. I know everyone expects me to go on, but I fear I cannot. It's only been a few weeks since we lost her. her illness was fast and devastating. Taking care of her and holding her hand when she passed was the best thing I've ever done with my life. I just can't pick up and go on....

Does it ever get easier? Will I ever be happy again?

Aug 27, 2011
You are not alone in your grief
by: Geoffrey Campbell

In the hope that these words might comfort you, dear one, you are not alone. In the words of the prophet Isaiah, it says of Allah,"In all our afflictions, He is afflicted." Few know this, as it is also written "He careth for you." Though He is almighty, all our grief and sorrows are felt by Him, there is not a tear that falls that He does not see, and feel. To love our Mother's is in accordance with His will as it is written in His fifth commandment in Exodus 20 verse 12. Therefore know that as much as you love your precious Mother, Allah loves her infinitely more. In this life we suffer much, but you are not to be left alone in your grief, for you are not an orphan dear daughter, you are loved. I wept, and am weeping now, for your letter moved me, and the spirit of Allah moves my heart with compassion for you, to tell you that though there are millions of souls on this earth, He loves you with a love greater than an earthly friend or parent, trust in this love, and talk to Him, for it is also written, "he (she) that cometh unto Me I will in no wise cast out."

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