by Amanda
(South Afrika)

Yes! I also loose my hushard nine month ago and still can't believe it. Every now and then I expect him to just walk through the door and everything will still be the same as always.

At this stage I'm realy suffering, feeling I live in a air bubble, nothing make sense, feeling absent minded. Can't remember anything or get my mind active to do something worthwhile, just
doing the necessary stuff and just wait for the days to past.

It realy freaks me out what will became of me
if I keep on living like this. But this is like a stage because I've done a lot of things since he pasted away, went on holiday, make some
new clothes, work in the garden...lots of stuff, but now
I don't know.

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Nov 11, 2010
by: Mari

You sure have the right idea Brenda, staying close to the Lord. I will keep you in prayer.
I attend church 4 times a week and soak up the word and that is how I am making it. Please pray for me as the memorial service is on my birthday, Nov 20th.

The 22nt is one year since my sweetheart went to be with the Lord. I miss him so much but at the same time I have the joy of the Lord. I know it sounds strange because I cry a lot too. And then I start thanking God I had him in the first place.
Cody is with the Lord, safe and you will have a grand reunion with him in heaven God bless you.

Nov 08, 2010
For Brenda
by: Mari

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. It is so hard to lose a child. You have gone through a lot, I know.

It is important to stay close to the Lord and allow healing to take place. It will take a while and sometimes you may feel you are going backwards instead of progressing. I have found this to be case at times. Your son is now with the Lord and someday you will see him again. Try to keep yourself busy. It helps to talk to someone you trust.

Believe me I cannot believe I have almost made it through this year and it hasn't been easy but there has been some healing.

Anytime you want to express your feelings we are here for you. Everyone on this board cares. This a great place to share the things that are on your mind and heart. And God is with you too. Take care.

Nov 06, 2010
For Amanda
by: Mari

I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. I too lost mine and it just takes time to heal. The healing process is different with everyone.

May God be with you at this difficult time.
It sounds to me like you are doing the right thing, staying busy. Gardening is a great way to pass time and making clothes. You are a talented lady.

I lost my husband on Nov 22 2009. It is almost a year. It has been hard to get through but I do feel there has been some healing. I still cry but not as much. I know he is safe with the Lord, out of pain and not suffering from his heart.

Please keep writing as this is a great board with caring people. Remember that we are always here for you. There will be sad times but you need the time to grieve. Take care of yourself.

Nov 06, 2010
by: Brenda

I too have suffered a great loss, the death of my youngest child. His name was Cody Lee Cole and he died on May 21, 2010. This is the hardest thing I have ever endured and I know I could not have done it without my faith in God. That has been the only thing that has kept me sane. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

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