An unexpected loss.

by Paula
(Spring, Texas )

My amazing, wonderful, salt-of-the-earth, loyal, kind Dad passed away unexpectedly on August 11, 2013. I'll never forget that 2:15am phone call. Since then, it is a struggle. I miss him so much. He passed just 18 days shy of my parents 50th anniversary, leaving an absolutely devastated mom/wife and 12 kids. It's awful. Every now and then, a picture pops in my head and takes my breath away. I am having a tough time processing that I will never see him again. He's gone. He was barely 70.

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Jan 03, 2014
Thanking those who relate
by: Paula

Thank you so much for your kind comments and your support. There are so many people out there feeling the pain that I feel, and it helps to hear from those who are in the same situation and place in their lives. Yes, 'fractured' is the perfect word to describe this. Broken. My family - we are just trying to pick up the pieces and heal.

Jan 02, 2014
Feel the same
by: Anonymous

My father died suddenly in January 2013 from sudden cardiac arrest. I will never forget the phone call either. He and my mother would have celebrated 50 years together in October. Even though it has been almost a year, we are still in shock and disbelief. I wish you and your family comfort and peace, and hope you can begin to heal. Barb

Jan 02, 2014
An unexpected loss
by: Doreen UK

Paula I am sorry for your loss of your father and for the pain this is still causing you. I am in the same place as your mom having lost a husband of 44yrs. 20 months ago to a deadly lung cancer caused by working with asbestos. I nursed him for over 3yrs. and watched him die slowly of a painful disease that ripped through our family. I have 3 Adult children in the same place as you having grieved the loss of a father who was 65yrs. of age and still had more life to live but was robbed of this chance. Grief is such a long and hard battle to endure that makes one so weary and wanting it to be over quickly. Many memories come back and act as triggers and starts off the whole process of grief again, just when you think you are making some progress and moving forward. It will take much time for all of you to recover from grief. Just know that you are not alone. Out there in the world so many lives are fractured by death and sorrow and we all struggle each day hoping it will be a better day. I found the secret of coping by taking one day at a time. I wish you better days ahead.

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