Angry Caregiver

by Bonnie
(Fresno CA,USA)

I worked for a beautiful lady,she loved to ride roller coasters. I was her caregiver for 6 months. The doctor talked the family in to having a Hospice come in. During this time I remained her caregiver. She was alert when I left that evening before hospice came in. When I came the next day she was in a coma after the hospice put in the IV. She stayed like that for a week. They kept saying that it was because she was so relaxed, she went in to a deep sleep. I knew better they had gave her a overdose of morphine.They told the family that when she dies to call them, not to call 911 and that there wOuld not be a autopsy. Well I guess not if there had been one they would have found that she died from a overdose of morphine. I have seen people die from cancer without the help of hospice and they are able to talk to their family right up to the time pass. She was never given the chance to say Good Bye! She died from morphine overdose and dehydration! I am mad at myself for not questioning what was happening to her. We also never seen a doctor, one never came to evaluate her,before anyone is given a narcotic they are to be seen by a doctor not a nurse telling you that a doctor told her to give her that much morphine. Morphine can be given to control pain and it can be given to KILL. Beware of Hospice Care (if you can call it care)!

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Jan 31, 2012
It is possible..
by: Anonymous

I read your post and I have had friends that have had Hospice come in and they were wonderful and supportive to the family. On the otherside I had a good friend who lost her father to lung cancer. He was still up and getting around. Had taken some chemo treatments. He was told that he was in the end stages and it was time to get his affairs in order. When Hospice came to the house they told my friend that they could help him not suffer more than need be. They basically offered him an overdose. She is a Very Christian woman and she was very upset and angry that they would even make such a suggestion. She expressed her belief that when God was ready to take him then he would. No one else was going to be playing that part. I am not sure if she ever filed a complaint. I know that losing someone is hard enough. I do want to express that there are many good people that have dedicated their life to Hospice. I have a friend that is a Hospice nurse and I know she would Never consider such a thing. I am truly Sorry for your loss and the troubling time you are working through.It is wonderful she had someone as caring you to share the final months of her life with. I am sure you brought her much comfort.

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