Any other long term carers out there please ?
Dear Friends, If there are any other long term carers out there please be in touch.
Since losing my mum seven weeks ago I have felt such a terrible grief and void. We had been inseperable 24/7.
I cared for her and my disabled brother which I felt priviledged to do for twelve years - since my father died.
She use to call me her mum and I suppose I was because of role reversal. Mum was also there for me giving me courage to get out of a terrible marriage, health problems and more recently two invasive operations. With her beautiful smile, singing voice and acceptance I must have forgot how vulnerable she was.
If any friends on the website have been carers for their loved ones for such a lengh of time they will understand that grief is made worse somehow. I asked a doctor at the hospice. `Can we love too much'? He answered `no as some patients have no tears for them'.
But judging by the inconsolable grief I feel I wonder if this is true. I would appreciate words of comfort.