April 27, 2012

by Sabrina S,
(Tucson, AZ)

My Mom just passed away a couple days ago. She died in a car accident. She was found in a a river, at the bottom of the Feather River Canyon 30 minutes from Quincy, CA. She was going to visit her brother and his wife but she never made it, A part of me died when I found out 8 hours after it had happened. The police knocked on my door at 2:32am and told me the news. Ever since then I feel empty inside. I know I have support and my family loves me, but I still feel completely alone. My Dad died when I was five so my Mom had been a single parent for the majority of my life. I am only a sophomore in college, just barely turned 19 and I have already lost both parents. I want my Mom back more than anything. I would do anything to have one more moment with her. The day she died I had this nagging feeling to text her, so I did. That was the last time I spoke with her because she died about 30 minutes later. Even though we only talked about school and my car, I am so glad I got that nagging feeling. But I wish I had called her, I wish I had heard her voice one more time before she died. My Mom was my role model, my rock, and my best friend. There were no secrets between us, just honesty. I will never forget her and how inspirational she was. She was an immigration attorney who helped thousands immigrate to the United States. She was loved by everyone. I will miss her very much. I just hope when she died she knew how much I loved her and that she meant more to me than anything in this world.

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May 03, 2012
by: Zoe

I am a widow, that is why I blog. I am older and my parents have passed.
I would, like to talk to you as a mother. After I lost my John I realized that when my time comes I do not want them to suffer grief, so I have written them a letter to be opened when I am gone. I would like to share a small portion

My darlings, do not grieve for me. You are here as the best examples of my life and my legacy. You have given me the most joy and taught me the strength only a mother can know. I love you both, do not grieve my loss, because as long as you are here, then my love lives on with you and I am not really gone.

She is with you, she is in your face where you look like her she is in your heart and she is around you, the butterfly that appears out of nowhere, the flower that grows where it never grew before.

You mother would not want you to be so sad, but to celebrate her life. Because as long as your love is there, she is not really gone.. She knew you loved her because the love of your child is the nourishment of a mothers heart.

one breath, one step, one day at a time

May 03, 2012
I'm so sorry for your loss
by: simcat

I think you might still be in shock. You could be for many months still to come. Please be kind to yourself. I'm 48 and have lost both of my parents but I still feel that many people who haven't really don't understand. They never will.
My Dad who was my rock died in a car accident in 97 and I still miss him very very much. I have a spot on a shelf with many pictures of him and don't care if other people find it excessive. I like to see his smiling face as often as possible.
be well ok

May 03, 2012
by: Anonymous

Dear Sabrina,

I'm very sorry to hear about your mom. Losing someone so suddenly is devastating. I too lost the most important person in my life, 93 days ago, without the chance to say goodbye.

Nothing I write here will make the pain go away. Give yourself the space and time to grieve. There are no rules or formulas other than to take care of yourself -- because that is what your mom would want.

You will be constantly bombarded with memories and what-ifs. Sometimes, you will feel like you're losing your mind. They're all legitimate. The memories, even the happy ones, won't feel happy for some time.

If you have access to counseling, go. If you have close friends and family, don't hesitate to call on them.

My heart goes out to you. You're not alone in what your feeling. Please be well, always.


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