by April Richards
(Georgetown MN USA)

I lost my wonderful husband of 40 years on April 3rd in a terrible tractor accident. He had been driving tractors since he was young. He had worked his whole life, milking cows, cleaning chicken eggs, since he was about 6. He had just turned 66 the week before he died and was so looking forward to his first social security check the next month. And he was going to semi-retire from farming. He had worked for 60 years and was finally going to take some time for himself and me.

He had just bought a Harley trike and we were planning all these things for summer, going around the states on the trike, hooking up the 5th wheeler to go visit places we had never been, just spending time together. He was my childhood sweetheart that I started dating when I was 15 and we married when I was 18.

The last few years, we had gotten so comfortable with each other, we didn't need anyone else. We even renewed our vows in Jamaica last year on Valentine's Day, his idea. We spent every moment together that we weren't working. If we wanted a few drinks, we would have them together, alone, at home, just the two of us. If we went to the casino, out to eat, on vacation, we didn't need anyone else to go with us, it was always just the two of us because we only needed each other.

Now I am alone and so lonely. He was my rock, my strength and my life. I am so lost without him, I don't know what I will do.

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May 25, 2010
My heart is broken
by: Linda

I am so sorry for you I also have just lost my husband on May 3rd. He died of cancer. Like you two we had our Harley's and had plans to ride all over since he was 64 and and had retired and I am 59 but was taking sometime off. He even talked about buying the Harley trike. He was my world, married for 33 years together for 40. The pain is so great I really do not know if I will ever get over it. They say it gets better I do not know, this is the worst feeling I have ever had.
I hope you find peace

May 20, 2010
I'm living it, too
by: Rose

I know exactly how you feel. Seven months ago today, Oct. 20,2009, I lost my beloved husband Anthony. We would have been married 39 years in April. We met when i was 14, he was 16. We dated all through school, and got married and raised two sons.

He suffered from diabetes and heart problems all his adult life. That morning he died, he told me he didn't feel well. He got dressed to go out with me, said he was going to pass out, and died at my feet at the age of 63, two weeks short of his 64th birthday.

We did everything together. We shared the same interests, belonged to the same organizations, went out together everywhere. We enjoyed going to the casinos and were never apart for very long.
I can tell you that after seven months, it is not much easier being alone. I did join a bereavement group shortly after, and it helps, because you learn that your thoughts are not as crazy as you would think.

Hang in there, and check out my husband's bereavement writeup, "Too Sudden, Too Soon" on this website.

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