My wife of 25 years was not close to her family and for some reason could not get close to mine. She met a half sister 2 years ago and I encouraged her and our daughter to go visit. What looked like my wife came back from that trip but after 2 years of careful planning she left this last summer while I was away hunting. She left the daughter, dog, beautiful house and good job and for something down there. She gets alimony until I retire and part of my pension afterwards and half of our investments. Some evil entity took over. Our marriage was not perfect but we still talked our daily talks and went out to eat and to the movies. Sex was out though - she said she just didn't feel like it and it must be menopause. I should have saw the signs and done more but all I have read says it would not have helped. She wanted out and left now I have to have dignity and pride and take care of what is here. The pension part was calculating and evil though....now I have to work years longer than planned but should be thankful I can I guess. She got me good in the end and I blame myself a lot for letting her go to Arkansas....life goes on right?