Beloved Brother

by Coral
(Albuquerque, NM)

i lost my brother June 08, 2010. He died in a car accident. He wasn't even on the road. he was merging onto the hwy and a semi lost control and landed on his car. his chest was crushed and his heart stopped instantly. it hurts so much. its been 3 months and 21 days. i've heard, "really it still hurts" because when i talked about him i cried. i guess iam suppose to be over it in three months. i dont see how three months is nearly enough time to be over never seeing anyone again. i am angry at the semi driver. iam hurting and heart broken. he was my best friend. he was so smart and successful. he was 10 times the person that i will ever be

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Feb 20, 2011
dear Beloved Brother
by: Anonymous

Dear Beloved Brother I can relate to your story my only brother was killed in a car accident at 23 last year at this time. He was coming home from a basketball game . Was this your only sibling? Please know that my heart goes out to you.

Oct 01, 2010
by: kay

Hello Coral
I know the pain that you feel, it hasn't gotten any easier for son died in a car accident in May 2010. There is not a day goes by when I don't cry for him. My daughter is not doing too well with her brothers death, but is trying to cope as best she can with 3 small kids. So I feel what your feeling...I have no answers...I just want you to know you are in our thoughts and I send to you much love and healing.....How precious memories are Coral even when they hurt so

Sep 30, 2010
in your time
by: Russ

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You should not feel like you are supposed to "be over" it in 3 months. 3 months is really not long at all. In some ways you will never be "over it" but in time you will be able to take the blessing that your brother's life was, and hold onto that without feeling the crushing pain of his loss. So don't be surprised if after several months of being "OK" you suddenly feel a wave of sadness and tears. Each of us is different - but we all must grieve in our own way and our own time. Blessings and Peace to you.

Sep 30, 2010
beloved brother
by: Mari

I am so terribly sorry about the loss of your brother. I can imagine the heartache you are going through. It has only been a few months and you will hurt for a while. The grieving process takes time and is different for everyone. It is something you will need to do for healing to take place.

God will be with you through this. Just pray for comfort. He knows what you are going through. Your brother sounds like he was a wonderful person. I am sure you meant alot to him too.

I lost a brother in 1968. We were less then a year apart and very close. He called me and asked for the money to go to the doctor and I gave it to him and asked him to come to the house and take the time to get better. He came and stayed a week and left, seemed to be alright. Then he returned to his apartment. He passed away that night in his sleep at the age of 24. He had some kind of heart condition. I was only 23 then and had a really rough time dealing with this.

It has been a long time and I remember him as the nicest brother who would comfort me if I cried and we played records together and laughed. He had the bluest eyes. I used to tell him he looked the part of the true Norwegian. Anyway I thank God to have had a bro like him. I grieved and just handed it over to God.

Your brother is in God's care and keeping. Just give it time and find comfort in the scriptures. You will remember the good times you had together. Take care and keep posting to express your feelings. This is a board with nice people who care.

Sep 30, 2010
Not long enough
by: Coral

Grief is a process. It doesn't just "end" and if people are insensitive enough to say something like that it's just because they've never experienced it. I lost my sweet sister to a drunk driver when I was 20. She was 5. It took me three years to talk about her without crying. I am 54 and it still hurts to think about her.
Six and 1/2 weeks ago I lost my beautiful 23 year old son to leukemia. I know how the grief process works but it doesn't make it any easier.

Just avoid people who are judgmental. Find something positive to do in your brother's name. I ended up volunteering with Mothers Against Drunk Drivers in my sister's memory. I just did the Light the Night Leukemia walk in memory of my son. It helps.
Hugs to you.

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