beloved Matthew

by Savana Sykora
(Yuma, AZ)

I am thankful to find support by all of you. I lost my son 4 months ago. It was a murder misery is what the news said the ER doctor doesn't know my son, they called it trespass on his home,the couple shot him and were not charged, We all love our children. but when tragedy happened like that what are you going to do with denial, angry, bargain, depressed and acceptance.All sorts of mixed feeling going through your mind. Its hard to believe that is happen to me. He was only only son. i am questioning God all the time, why me?

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Dec 04, 2013
You son Matthew
by: Marge

I am so very sorry for your loss. My son died in Feb. 2012 and I am sad every day, especially around the holidays. The circumstances which your son died is difficult to understand. I am sure you are still dealing with it and want more answers. Until I found this website, I didn't know there were so many people who lost children. I find reading the stories and comments is helpful for me to deal with my loss. Take care

Nov 20, 2013
sorrow shared
by: Anonymous

I am so sorry for your loss, as I am missing my son also. Every story is painful, but the bottom line for me is that I want my son back and can never have that. So the details are unimportant to me, only that the nightmare cannot end this time. The horror movie has no end, my son will never come to me. The stages allow me to know I am still sane, yet the pain makes me scream silently. I work and live, but have not worked through to find much joy in my life yet. I wish you success in coping with the grief and pain, and like you, appreciate the help this site provides, to know that others care and agree, grief is painful and this sucks...but we will make it together...Joe's mom.

Oct 08, 2013
beloved Matthew
by: Anonymous

Thank you and feel blessed with yr comforting words xoxo

Oct 05, 2013
Your son
by: Kate

It is so unbelievable that we have to learn to live without our child! I lost my son 10 months ago I am still heartsick. I have had so many emotions I understand your words. Your only son his love will be with you forever but we feel so much hurt over losing them no matter how it happened. Writing on here helps because we all are on this hurtful path together. Days will go by and you will wonder how you are doing it but God will help.
It isn't easy it's painful and my feelings care as you sorrow.

Oct 05, 2013
beloved Matthew
by: Doreen UK

Savana I am sorry for your loss of your son to a murder that makes no sense. A mystery that absolves anyone from responsibility. Which in essence leaves you confused. Your only son is taken from you. Someone is not charged for his murder and you have all these emotions to deal with along with your grief. As you say. ANGER, CONFUSION, DISBELIEF, ETC.
All the questions with no answers. Especially "Who is accountable?" It is not uncommon to be angry with God. He gave you a son and you lost him and it makes no sense. When I lost my husband of 44yrs. 17 months ago to cancer I prayed for healing for him and He died. I was angry with God for some time. I couldn't watch any healing programmes on God TV. Here was a God I knew who healed some people and some died. Some healing has taken place within me and I don't feel that same anger against God now. But anger is also part of grief. To lose a child is the worst experience of a parent's life but to lose an only child is worse. I think every parent has that fear of losing a child, but when it happens it is almost the end of our world as we know it. You will feel disoriented for some time. Processing you loss will be hard and tedious at times. If you know God then reach out to Him because He is all we have and all we have ever had since He created this world and us and grief is the most painful experience of life. May God come to you and give you His Comfort and Peace in the midst of your grief and help you to recover.

Oct 05, 2013
God bless and keep you!
by: Anonymous

I am lifting you up to God, praying that he comforts you. God bless and keep You!......Michelle

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