Bereaved daughter

by Bereaved daughter

I lost my mum a year ago but the pain is worse now.

When I say pain, my tears have dried, and I no longer look for her. But as an only daughter I was with her all my life. Some people found this difficult to comprehend, but the men in our lives had addictions so we clung together and found a perfect friendship and love.

She had such a difficult life and much pain before she passed. I wanted to make it better but I could never give her the security she deserved.

I try to keep going without her, but it is so difficult. Friends try to understand but they all have families. She was all I had.

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Oct 14, 2013
Bereaved daughter
by: Doreen UK

I am sorry for your loss of your mother. It is so hard in life being left all alone after your mother's death from being an only child. You were probably the centre of her universe. It will take a long time to heal from your loss, but the secret is by TAKING ONE DAY AT A TIME. Don't look too far ahead as all you will see is this mountain of loneliness ahead. This was the worst aspect for me when I lost my husband to cancer 17 months ago. Taking one day at a time I have been able to make some strides forward in my grief.
As a carer I often tried to be everything for the people I cared for. But we have boundaries and it did me an injury carrying more load than was possible. It is actually very hard to heal from this boundary injury. so be careful not to punish yourself for not doing more. We have our limitations. We can only help one another with carrying some of the load but not ALL of it. I am sure you brought much happiness to your mother just by showing her you cared. this is all a mother hopes for and you delivered this.
If you find yourself struggling with grief then try CRUSE bereavement services. They are trained to help with grief and get an individual past the stuck in grief stage to a more manageable grief where one is moving forward at a normal pace. You will recover from grief and get your life back with time. Grief has its process. But it is the rebuilding of one's life that is more difficult. Just tackle each stage at a time and don't try to handle everything at one time. I wish you better days ahead in your grief and may you be comforted.

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