Beyond grief

by Laura
(Texas )

I lost my beautiful daughter 13 months ago, due to a shunt revision surgery that had complications. My fiance was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer in August of 2012, After being told he was NED in January, he went to be with the lord on 4/9/13. I was with him to the end, but it was so terrifying to see him go into complete organ shutdown & and then pass! I have prayed so much to God, I don't want to sound like a broken record! I know he is with me, for I can feel his presence and the angel's as well! I just got the news that my step father passed away, from complications due to him fighting throat cancer for the last 12 years! I know my loved ones are united in heaven, and God never lends us more than we can handle, but I just don't know how much more I can endure!


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May 10, 2013
Beyond grief
by: Doreen U.K.

Laura I am sorry for your loss of your beloved daughter, fiancé, and step father. You have had so many losses to endure and it is not unreasonable to feel the way you do.
I lost my mum 10yrs. ago. my nephew 6yrs ago. My beloved husband of 44yrs. 1yr. ago and now my father slowly dying. It is hard to go through this. I know God says I won't give you more than you can bear. But sometimes it feels as if we do have more than we can bear. We wonder when it will get better. It only Faith and Belief in God that will get us through each day. God created the family, marriage, companionship. the need to be in relationship. It is therefore only God who is going to get us through each day. God stretches us to breaking point. It is then we see his mighty hand at work.
One thing I want to ask God is. Why does grief hurt so much? The Bible says we have Sorrow. But sorrow as those who don't have any HOPE. AGONY is beyond Grief. I hope that God will be especially close to you now and give you comfort and Peace beyond your grief.

May 10, 2013
Dear Laura,
by: Pat

I know your pain. I lost 3 loved ones in 5 months in 2011 (father, brother, fiance'). I, too, feel like I have been dumped on. However, I am beginning to realize there are reasons for everything, including these awful losses. It feels so personal to us, but we have to remember that each one of the loved ones we lost were sick and going to the Lord was His way of giving them the peace and comfort they could not find on this earth.

We are still here and left to endure the pain of our losses, but our loved ones are no longer in pain. I have to keep telling myself this and I am sure you do too. I am so sorry for what you are having to deal with. The loss of your daughter must be especially difficult. Trying to go on without the people we love is very difficult. In some ways, I think it is God's way of helping us to gain strength. All of us will die one day. I have to think that losing so many in such a short period of time, somehow, will make us stronger.

We have to find a way to deal with all of this. Have you been to a grief support group? I did that last year. I found it helpful to be in the company of so many others who were going through the same thing. I am also doing things in memory of the the loved ones I have lost. I put a scrapbook together, when my mother died in 2009. It helps to be able to look at it and remember the good times we had. In memory of my father and brother, I started a pet program with a local hospice agency to help hospice patients be able to keep their pets, until they pass away. The program puts volunteers with the patients to walk their dogs, take them for vet visits, or whatever the patient needs so he can keep his pet near him.

You might consider doing something with an organization that helps cancer patients. Giving to others has been a great way to pass on the legacy of my loved ones and it helps me feel better too. I send you many hugs and prayers. We will get through this somehow. Pat

May 09, 2013
by: Anonymous

Dear Laura, I give you all of the love I can muster remember you are a child of the universe and that universal unconditional love surrounds you. Maybe read Dying to be Me by Anita Moorjani. Helped me cope with the loss of my dear wife last year

God Bless You Dear Laura.

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