Bobby heine

by Shelly
(az usa)

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My name is Shelly and I Lost my soul mate, best friend, my supporter. Bobby was killed on his motorcycle November 12,2013 @ 7:43 am. He left that morning giving me three kisses and Messing up my curls. Telling me love you see you later. Bobby and I have lived together for 3 1/2 years know each other since 2004. This has been especially difficult for me since January 21,2013 I was diagnosed with leukemia. Was in hospital for a month. The first week my doctor told my brother and Bobby shes not going to Make it . Bobby promised me I was not going to die of cancer that I was going to torture him for the rest of his life. I just never expected it to be 11 months later. He had been my support through my sickness. I lost all my hair and did not feel pretty any more. Bobby made being bald. He made me feel I was still pretty because he loved me So. .. well between all this his sister came from Jersey and kicked me out of our home since we was not married. I lost my soul mate x best friend, home, everything we built together and one of our dogs. He had buddy before me. Then we had two boxers together. I am still sick and its very tough getting up everyday. I had to barrow money to find a home and move far away. Note I am all alone still trying to figure out how and why this happen. I do wish I could join him but I can not leave my dogs. I know I will be with him soon enough. It's been two months and it feels like it is getting harder. I try not to have anger towards his family and friends that did him wrong. But I know God does not want me to hate. And it can't bring him back.

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Feb 01, 2014
true love forever
by: Heidi

Shelly I am so sorry for your Bobby passing away. This is the most excruciating pain anyone can go through – losing your best friend and soul mate. Only ones that have lost their true loves can understand what we are going through. Even then, each loss is unique to our own. You and Bobby have known each other many years and became bonded together as one. Now, to not have him here with you makes you feel lost and alone. His family isn’t making your grief journey any easier. Death affects everyone differently and some lash out in ways unexpected. I think in trying to deal with their own grief they do things that they may or may not realize how hurtful it is to us. I’ve experienced this too.

My Mickey died four months ago and it doesn’t get any easier. From what Doreen, Edna, Lawrence and others have told me on this site, someday it will be a pain we can endure, but it will take time. I never used to cry but now cry at the drop of a hat – every day. Everywhere I look at home, driving down the street, going to the store, reminds me of Mickey and things we used to do together or things we did for each other. Even at work it reminds me of when he’d call me or text me. I’ve become a recluse. I really don’t want to have conversations with people and hearing what they and their significant others are doing or what a ‘chore’ it is trying to figure out what to do for their husband’s birthday. I would give anything...anything to have my Mickey back here with me.

Like you, our pets keep me existing. Mickey was very overprotective of them. He would be upset if I didn't take good care of them. Sometimes I think that our elderly dog’s heart condition that started one month after Mickey died forced me to face each day. For me, getting up in the morning is the hardest thing because I have to start yet another day without Mickey. We did everything together and now he is suddenly not here. I’ve lost interest in doing anything. It seems pointless if Mickey isn’t here to share it with me.

The main thing that keeps me going is my (jolted) faith in God. I don’t know why things happen the way they do-guess we aren't supposed to understand. I wish I could have had just a little more time with Mickey. I pray each night that someday soon I’ll see Mickey again in Heaven. Hug your dogs as they are grieving too. Pets are a huge comfort, aren't they. I am praying for your health and that you find comfort and peace.

Jan 29, 2014
Lost My Son - Sept 5, 2013
by: Anonymous

Hi Bobby, I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I lost my only son (22 years old)the morning of September 5, 2013 at 7:10am as he passes away from his injuries while driving to work. Another driver turned left right in front of him around 6:00am and according to the other drive he didn't see my son. I feel so unjust about this and how this could happen. I am so empty without my son and I hope and look for him all the time. I cry each day and his long time girlfriend is also grieving. We were 10 days away from going on our first real vacation (Disney world/Bahamas) and now I will never see the look of amazement on his face. I am devastated and so empty but I know I will get thru this. I found a a good book to buy. It is called "Back to Life" by Jennie Wright and I am planning to go buy it this weekend. We had over 300 people at his funeral and I knew almost everyone. My son and I were in-separable and this is a hard pill to swallow. We collected over $16,000 for a local charity and as of today we have reached just about $27,000. I hope this helps. Cindy

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