Both my Grandparents

by Hannah
(Stark Towers, New York)

My grandfather died a little while ago, I was pretty young and he spoke Chinese, but I was to stubborn to learn. we had fun together and we played with each other. he would go for a walk every morning and whistle while running around with his friends, much like a little kid would do. early in the fall, my grandmother had a stroke. she has been unconscious for months, but as I got into the car to go home today, my mom said that she wasn't going to make it and I felt like swearing and punching things until they denigrated. instead I just fell limply to my bedside, and typed out this story.

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Mar 01, 2013
Both my Grandparents
by: Doreen U.K.

Hannah I am sorry for your loss. You did the right thing to sit down and write this post. Death whilst is a fact of life is never easy to bear, but when you are young it is more difficult to endure. Especially to lose grandparents who were so very special people in your life. We all take our folks for granted and think we have life forever. I did this. I thought my husband would live till his 80's as his parents did and his siblings are moving towards their 80's also. So why did my husband die at 65yrs. 10 months ago? No one knows why some live long and some die young. Death is no respector of persons and can leave us sad and grief stricken sooner than we think. You say you wished you had learnt your grandfather's language but were too stubborn to do this. YOU WERE YOUNG. It is not easy to make a decision like this when you are young and have your whole life ahead of you to do this. Like humans we put off the inevitable and often never get around to doing the things we hope to do. Learning your grandparents language as their mother tongue is best learnt as a baby when you can pick this up more easily than to learn this later on as it is very time consuming and could be harder to grasp. So don't be too hard on yourself. I never learnt my husband's language. For reasons of not falling out with anyone if I should hear and understand what was not good. This is an advantage to me. You may want to write and keep a journal of all the good times and rich history of your grandparents so that this is not lost and you don't lose any of the memories over time. You will have a rich history and memories to pass down to the future generations. It will also bring you comfort when you read this back. You will be filled with the warmth and love that grandparents provide. I hope that you will be comforted in your grief and supported by family and friends. Life will get better in time but for now I know IT HURTS.

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