Bryan died four weeks ago. That is so hard to write.

I am a mother of three sons. Life in 2012 was going to be fantastic. All of my sons are well-educated with good jobs and good wives. Two were expecting sons this year and were excited to raise cousins the same age. The worst call of our lives came on the morning of February 11. Our middle son, Bryan, had passed away suddenly leaving his incredible wife and unborn son. The autopsy showed bacteria had gotten into his blood stream and his body became septic. The pain is at times unbearable. So much loss for our family and for Bryan's son. Tomorrow Bryan would have been 37 years old. Our hearts are broken to not see him again. Our hearts are broken that his wife is in so much grief. Our hearts are broken that his son will never meet his dad. The funeral service was wonderful with hundreds in attendance and people being turned away. He was a wonderful man loved by so many. Bryan died four weeks ago. That is so hard to write.

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May 15, 2012
The hard firsts
by: Birdie

It is hard to write it, to see it written, the first time I recieved my daughters death certificate in the mail, it hit home, seeing her memorial stone we made of her tattoo on her back, in the ground, her name written on it, unbelievable pain. I have her three children to raise she was only 33, the first time I saw the words she wrote in her daughters school book she had to sign everyday, so hard...its all hard the first time I had to wash the kids clothes, the first time I had to hold them sobbing in their grief, but as I write this, its healing me because they are done those firsts, and now I have to go on, I have to be strong and make sure my three angels left with me know and never forget their mom my beautiful Lorene Angele, xxxooo

Mar 13, 2012
I am so sorry
by: Another Heartbroken Mom

I lost my son at the age of 25 unexpectantly and I feel your pain and anger. I am so sorry and my heart hurts for any mom that loses a child. I don't care if they are a young adult or family man it is a hurt like no other. I know you are feeling so empty right now but each day you get a little stronger. I know when it happened to me I just wanted him back and would do anything to have him here again but i also realized he was gone and my life would never be the same again. I have one other son who was 11 1/2 months younger and dedicate as much time as I can to loving him. The heartbreak never goes away; you just learn to live with it. I am posting this in your blog as I did someone elses on this site. When I read this in a short novel it hit home with me and I hope it gives you an insight of how to deal with the grief. Take care of yourself and take one step at a time.
“It happened and you can’t take away the memories or the pain. It may have changed you, but it’s a part of your history. It does not make up the total sum of your person. Right now that may be hard to believe but I promise you although you may never be the same, you will find yourself again. You will find the old person and merge her with the new one.”

Mar 11, 2012
I am sorry for your loss
by: Anonymous

I have heard it said that a parent is never to bury their child. I watched my parents bury seven of their children and believe me, it was not easy. I can not imagine, even for one moment the pain that you and your family are going through. I will pray for you and your family. I know that you will keep your son alive and share with his son his memories. I know there will be something in the newborn that will remind you of your child and will keep you close to him. May God give you all the necessary tools you need to support you and your family through this difficult time. My prayers are with you all. Nancy

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