by DJ

I'm 14 years old. I have lost a Grandmother, a very close cousin, a uncle, and a great uncle over the course of 7 years. My Grandmother died due to Heart Disease and a type of Cancer infecting it. Cousin of bone disease that spread. Uncle of liver cancer. Great Uncle of alot of things. Now, my aunt, who has been with me since I was born, lived just down the road, is in Hospice care. I don't understand why this is happening to me. I don't know what I did. Both of my parents have had multiple Heart attacks. I don't know how much more I can take. They told us yesterday that my aunt only has a month at the most. I don't want to lose anyone more. I can't lose anyone else.

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Jul 29, 2012
by: Doreen U.K.

Hi DJ I am sorry for your grief over losing 4 members of your family in 7 years and now being told your aunt is dying also. You are only 14yrs. and this is understandable at your age to wonder what will happen next? Why is this happening? Why are you losing so many people so fast. You are not able to recover each loss and grieve this. You have one loss on top of another. You should urgently consider grief counselling to help you cope over all the other losses in your life and to help you cope with you now going to lose your aunt soon. Life is so unfair. Multiple losses is hard to recover from. I don't know if I could cope with this like you and others have done and are having to still do. Death has such a sting that we find no cure, but only time to heal. We will go on hurting and hurting till healing takes place inside us. I hope that you have other family and friends to help support you at this difficult time. You should not have to cope with this grief all by yourself. In isolation Grief is more intense. The pain of grief makes us feel so ill we feel we won't recover or be able to go on with our lives. But as each new day unfolds we face new challenges and difficulties we have to overcome. Life could be going on with the usual minor problems we face each day, then we lose someone close to us and it feels as if an explosion has taken place inside of us. We are all in pieces and we are unable to put these pieces together so that we can go on each day. I guess you feel the same way we all do. FRAGMENTED. Wishing someone could come and put you back together again, and make you whole. DJ if you don't have supportive people around you. Try a grief counsellor. Don't do this grief alone. It feels just like an injury every day to our bodies and our soul hurts. My husband died of cancer 11 weeks ago so I know how you feel. Take Care.

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