Can't get past the anger...

by disillusioned
(what's the point)

My neighbor/girlfriend of 40 plus years died last year of a brain tumor. We were only 8 years old when we became friends. The best way to describe Anne, is the way she was often described in beautiful on the inside as she was on the outside.

We went through elementary, middle and high school together. Afterwards she earned her masters degree in nursing. She spent her life caring for others. Never asking anything from anyone.

She leaves behind 3 boys, at the time of her brief illness, two of them were in middle school. The youngest now still in middle school. Our kids still play together and I spend much time with the boys.

Just prior to her diagnosis, she went through a semi ugly divorce from a fellow who is fighting his own demons. So basically, there is no parents left for the boys as the dad has been out of the picture for the last two years. A relative of Anne's has custody of the boys and they are doing well.

I just can't get beyond the anger of such a beauty being taken so young and leaving behind so much.
It is so true when people say "only the good die young"

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Dec 12, 2013
Can't get past the anger...
by: Doreen UK

I am sorry for your loss of Anne. It is so very hard to know someone special and then to lose them. I was married for 44yrs. and my husband developed lung cancer from working with asbestos. I nursed him for 3yrs.39days and he died 19 months ago. He was such a beautiful man inside and out and a great loss to me and many other's. He was my first love and my last. No one could ever take his place. I felt just like you. "Only the good die young." but then I got to think of what it says about us who still live on. Death is no respecter of persons, but I do hear what you say. It is often those who do good in life that are snatched away from us and makes me wonder if they were sent our way as a Blessing. I try now to emulate life with trying to be a blessing to other's. I was angry for a long time with God for not saving my husband from cancer. I have managed to resolve my anger against God and realise that we are all going to die one day and thank God now for giving me the man who made my life special and meaningful. It is very sad when a mother dies and leaves young children. If they have someone good to care for them they will lack nothing. These boys will grow into fine young men and be all the better for good nurturing. But it hurts nevertheless. My youngest is 33yrs. and I am worrying now about who will look out for her when I leave this world. I guess it is human to worry. We somehow do get through life as best as we can. But it is good if we have someone to enjoy the journey with.

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