can't wrap my mind around any of this
My fiance and I had been together for almost 7 years....his sister(whom I worked with at the time) had introduced us. He had this huge crush on me for years before we even met. We hit it off right away, perhaps moved too fast in the first year and almost broke up because of it. But we decided to slow things down and things became much better.
Eventually we got engaged, almost bought a house together, but that fell through because of it being a short sale, however we were still looking at more houses. Quite some time had passed, and now we have accumulatedquite a bit of debt. I was working two jobs to help pay things down. I always made time for us, no matter how exhausted I was or whatever, as did he.
Fastforward a couple more years...by now I had quit my part time job, however my full time job switch our hours on us, which meant I went from working 3pm-11:30 to now 7pm-430am. We only saw each other on weekends and the occasional day during the week. I have been trying to get a new job, and he saw my efforts. Three weeks ago, on a Tuesday, he hit me with "we never see each other anymore. l don't feel the same anymore. I love you but im not in love with you anymore. " The rest of the week we would still talk as we normally did, but that Friday when I was talking to him on my dinner break, I knew things were different. He was just so cold and distant. We made plans to do something the following day. No phone call came. And I never tried to contact him because I figured he needed space. About a week later, I found out he was using our joint account where my pay check went in. I sent him a text and said "what gives? Im not good enough to talk to, but you can use my money? " he sent me one back and said " I needed some time to see if things would change and they haven't. I would like to be friends in the future cause you're a cool person and we do need to discuss who is going to pay what. DO NOT CALL ME CAUSE I WON'T ANSWER. " just like that, seven years gone through a text message. ...I haven't tried to contact him at all this whole time.....by the way, we are talking about a 36 year old man and im 35.....im so lost, confused....I dont know what to make of any of this and how this ended up happening. No fighting for us, no consideration for our kids and how they feel (we each have a child from previous relationships who have come to see each other as brothers)....nothing. ...i just dont get it.