changing sheets

by Jill

My mom died unexpectedly dec. 19th and I am having trouble dealing with it still. My mom was rushed to the hospital so she passed away there. I do not want my dad to change the sheets on their bed but it has been long and they obviously need to be changed. any advice?

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Feb 09, 2012
nothing really matters
by: Anonymous

My mum passed away last year unexpectedly and I had to change the sheets one day when dad wasnt around because i knew he would get upset by it. I have those sheets neatly folded away at the bottom of her wardrobe. I often go to her room when dad isnt around and take out her clothes that still smell like her and lie next to her side of the bed with them and pretend that shes there sleeping and holding my hand like we often did. Sometimes when i cant remember her, I spray her perfume on me or around the house to remind me of her warmth and beauty. Although i still have not accepted her death, nothing i do that I know would have made her happy makes me feel any better. At the beginning everything was so important but the more i am without her the more i am lost and nothing really matters.

Jan 25, 2012
I feel your pain
by: Anonymous

I know just what you are feeling. Someone would think you were crazy. My Mama died December 15, 2011. I have a lot of things that remind me of her and her smell. I am trying to hold on to everything she touched and was a part of her. Take those sheets put them somewhere, and you take them out when you want to feel close to her. Wrap yourself all in those sheets, and it will help you. I am wearing my Mama's clothes. I am sleeping on her bed. I have her covers and wrap myself in her. It does help.

Jan 22, 2012
It's only sheets
by: David K

It's only sheets, they get washed on regular occasions anyway. Maybe it's time.

Their are many more memories like clothes and pictures, special items you can keep. Don't put to much into the sheets.

Jan 22, 2012
I miss her
by: Anonymous

I miss her calls, I miss her insight, I miss her calling my sons her pet names. She was the glue that held us together. She loved my dad, my sisters and my brother and the grand children. She was the beacon and the standard. She loved everyone and didn't expect anything in return. She loved the Lord and tried to show that in every aspect.

She wished to recover and teach the Lords ways after college.

I wish that someday that I am 1/2 the women she is.

Jan 21, 2012
by: Sandy

That was such a sweet answer!

Jan 21, 2012
Im sorry
by: Londa Gates

My mom too just recently passed, December 18th.....and getting rid of or changing anything in her house is a very hard decision....but maybe it will help you. Instead of taking off the sheets and washing em, how about you put them in a box or maybe a bag, something you can keep with you forever!!! :(
Londa Gates of Phoenix AZ.

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