Channeling Erik

by Elisa Medhus
(Houston, TX USA)

Erik Medhus

Erik Medhus

One decision. One ill-fated decision. That’s all it took to cleave our lives in half: the wonderful before and the intolerable after. In the days and months that followed my son, Erik’s, suicide, our entire family was catapulted into a new world of grief, bewilderment, anger, and guilt. As a mother, the effect seemed to take an even greater toll. The physical connection that began 20 years and nine months ago had been ripped apart so violently that a searing pain permeated every part of my body and soul. It leached into every cell, distorted every memory and haunted every thought.

It didn’t take long, however, for our new dark world to lighten with brief moments of hope. As early as the day after Erik’s death, he sent us what would be the first of many messages that all was well with him in the afterlife. These intermittent respites from grief inspired me to share our experiences in a blog,

As a physician with a strong science background, these ghostly visits radically shifted my belief system. I had always believed what science had taught me: reality is that which is measurable by one of the five senses. If it cannot be touched, smelled, heard, seen or tasted, it is unknowable and therefore not “real.” Whatever is “unreal” we scorn and relegate to the domain of mysticism where only gypsies hunched over crystal balls and New Age kooks dared to tread.

Each of Erik’s visits made me question: Is there more to our three dimensional reality than can be perceived by our senses? Do these phenomena have a rational explanation? In a quest for truth, I began to devour nearly every book on consciousness survival and the afterlife, including those written by theoretical physicists and other scientists. Eventually, my research evolved into a new understanding of the quantum physics behind all things metaphysical, converting me from skeptic to believer. I now know the soul survives death. Erik has simply shed his body like a set of clothes and now lives in an alternate reality.

Eventually, I began regular and direct communication with Erik through a gifted medium. I wanted to ask the tough questions: What was death like for him? Where is he now? What is he now? What is the afterlife like? Why did he take his life when he had so much to live for?

In the blog, I continue to share not only the amazing stories of Erik’s on-going visitations and mischievous pranks, but also his answers to our many inquiries. Channeling Erik gives him a voice to help us broaden our perspective. Often each question generates a dozen new ones: What’s left after the body is shed? Has he met God? If so, what is God like? What new abilities does he have? How do souls manipulate energy to manifest themselves to us here on the earthly plane? How do thoughts create reality? Does time really exist? Will 2012 mark the end of our existence? Do we have past lives? If so, why can’t we remember them? Do souls in Heaven have a work life, a sex life, a social life? Can they hear our every thought? The list goes on.

Over time, those questions have blossomed into a journey. Strangers from all over the world have joined me, asking Erik their own thought-provoking questions. Many of these strangers, now friends, consider his insight life changing. For some on the brink of suicide, he has inspired them to live. Now, my readers and I venture hand in hand to explore the human experience, the death process, the afterlife, reincarnation, and more.

As a physician, writing this blog has been an immense healing experience for me, because it is in my nature to heal others and, through their restoration, I find my own salvation.

As a mother, writing this blog has not only strengthened my relationship with Erik even more, it has also allows me to continue to parent my son. Motherhood and Love knows no boundaries, even Death. I defy that wall and reach beyond to guide Erik to become what every mother wants their child to be: a productive, fulfilled, contributing soul who makes the world a better place for his fellow travelers. In the end, I refuse to allow his death to be in vain.

Erik would be the first to admit that he is no Oracle of Delphi. He does not claim to be a Dalai Lama, the Great Messiah, a mountaintop guru, or even a wise sage. No, he is a flawed human being who, like many of us, has battled his own dragons. He has stumbled and failed time and time again. But perhaps because of his foibles, he has a deep understanding of the human experience. He knows what it’s like to be neck deep in a foxhole of misery clawing desperately in the mud to pull himself out. He also knows what it’s like to feel hopelessness, to give up, to believe that life is not worth the pain and setbacks. But his trials and tribulations offer another type of wisdom—one we can relate to in the shadow of our own hardships. That said, however young, flawed and imperfect, Erik is a voice worth hearing. He is one of us.

It is my sincerest hope that you join Erik and me on this journey. At times you will cry. At times you will laugh. At times you will pause in wonderment. Some of you may be drawn by a fear of death. Some of you may be drawn by grief over a departed loved one. Like me, you search for comfort and hope. Some of you may be drawn by a yearning to see the bigger picture, to grasp the purpose of your existence. Whatever your motives, together we will explore the meaning of life, death and a new reality infinitely larger than both.

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Mar 01, 2011
my son is with me
by: beth

My son died less than 3 weeks ago. My parents are both gone as well as my sister but their deaths did not affect me like Ryan's has. I have never felt like this, I look at my eyes in the mirror and I see a stranger's eyes looking back at me.
Before my son died, I really did not know one way or the other if there was a way to communicate with our loved ones when they left this earthly world. I now know that communication is possible because Ryan's soul/spirit came to me the night before his services. It seemed natural to have him with me and all I know is that he is happy and at peace now. I felt the most pure love from him and I know he is okay wherever his soul is. The same night and at the same time, he was with his beloved wife (my daughter-in-law) and her experience was identical to mine. He has been with her other times since then and I am hoping that he will return to me again too. I believe that a person only leaves this earthly existence. Ryan is still with us, only now he is at peace and he is letting us know so that we can start to heal.
The experiences re:Erik and all of the other posts are not our imaginations. I now understand because my son is still with me, I just can't hold him or hear his voice saying, "I love you Mom." I miss him so much and it is so hard.

Feb 27, 2011
Channeling Erik
by: M Mack


Erik looks so sweet and handsome in the picture. I'm sure you long to throw your arms around that kid if you could. I am also a believer in the afterlife and always get signs. I definitely will follow your blog to see if our signs are similar. Last week I contacted a well know clairvoyant and confirmed alot of things that were happening. She told me my love is always around me in a physical sense.... I asked how can that be possible? She wasn't sure and wanted to know if I had a dog, birds, something physical was in my life. I still don't know who, or what. Anyway thanks for sharing your events with us. We need some hope and this has been a comfort for me. One day we will know the truth of our existence......Please keep writing and take care of yourself.

Feb 27, 2011
Talking to Heaven
by: TrishJ

Thank you so much for this post. I definitely will check out your web site.
As a nurse I completely shared your scientific views~If you can't see it, hear it, touch it, smell just doesn't exist.

I'm ashamed to say that after the death of my husband I actually started doubting my faith. The death is so final. The grief and emptiness so overwhelming. My very good friend recommended that I read the book "Talking to Heaven." It has been a huge comfort to me totally reaffirming my belief in the spirit world and the fact that God keeps our loved ones safe and happy. How else could we as human beings deal with death if we didn't believe this?

I will definitely check out your website.

Feb 27, 2011
my son leighton
by: julia

hi , i have just read your blog, and I too have lost my youngest son through suicide, and I too have had moments when i know he is with me, he moves the mirror on the wall tool let me know he is there, i can smell his smell when i am at my lowest ebb. I go to his grave, but feel closer too him in my car, and at home. Am thinking of you....and I feel your pain, because, I know how it feels. xxx

Feb 26, 2011
channeling erik
by: Jules

I am going to look for your blog - I have a strong belief in the afterlife - I am not a religious person in the usual sense of the word, but I am a spiritual person. I would dearly love to have contact with my darling husband, he has come to my children and grandchildren, but only to me a couple of times - maybe he knows I am strong enough to carry on by myself. I am, but it would be nice sometimes just to have his touch, feel his beautiful hands on me.
Thanks for sharing your story with us - and remember every day -one step, one breath
take care

Feb 26, 2011
What is a soul? apparently can be weighed?!!

I have discussed quantum physics with a fellow griever. He is much more book smart than me and at first it was a little intimidating...But we shared grief and pulled each other through that first horrible year. I do not know how I would have survived it without him or this group of wonderful people who really understand.

I have heard that even Albert Einstein did not like quantum physics because it just caused more questions than answers (my interpretation) and I can understand that.

I do know that when I am at my very lowest. When I am sobbing uncontrollably. Today for example:
I gave most of Paul's Halloween stuff to a neighbor down the street that really decked his house out for All Hallows Eve like we did. I kept most of the really expensive props but gave him some that were too much of a memory to bear or keep around.

Before I could even unload the stuff I sobbed on the sidewalk trying to explain why I wanted them to have it.

But when I got home and tried to calm myself. (this of course is after the car died in his driveway and he had to give me a jump.)
the door bell rang. No one was there. And as strange and unreal as it sounds even the broken doorbell to the front door will ring now and then.
I have tried everything to make that broken doorbell ring, even caught myself blowing on it one day to test it. But no, it only rings when I need him. so...I guess we all have our god winks as someone here calls them.

I am a simple person; logic and emotion fighting each other for answers. What happens when we go? Too many have tried to explain it. Describe it to those who have crossed into death and come back.
But I like to think that Paul is o.k now. I believe that he keeps an eye out on me, his family and though he can do nothing from his side it would seem. I feel his presence and it brings me some type of comfort. This I also cannot explain. It is more of a feeling than anything I can touch or explain rationally. How many others sense this?

Must one be religious to get through grief? Is there a path that we are supposed to follow? Or is it just the golden rule as I have attempted to practice? So many things that I don't know and probably will not know. My answer will not be another's answer to life either.

I just know that I am not supposed to give up life because I lost the very person that was my world, that made my life ours. I am supposed to go on somehow and that is the rough part to figure out.

For now I use the courage that has taken me through grief and do things that I was too scared or timid to do before. I just purchased Lynard Skynard tickets to take boo on April 29th.

I have not seen a concert since...David Cadsidy.
It is time to do what I have always wanted to do as soon as I figure out what that is.

My best to all trying to find their way...

Feb 26, 2011
chnneling Alan
by: maureen

Hi Elisa Thank you for this post and so sorry of the loss of your beautiful son. I lost my son four months ago. I have received so many incredible signs from him and some of my relatives think I am crazy. Like you I am in the medical field as a nurse and we are taught the scientific rationale for everything. Sometimes I thought things were just coincidence but there have been far too many of them. If you would like to email me directly my address is

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