by Cheryl Thompson
(Rochester, New York)

My daughter Shontia Charnelle Slade was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2002. Although we were told then that life expectancy would be 5 years; we held out hope that we would beat this horrific disease. Unfortunately in July of 2008 this hideous disease returned and metastisized and 2 weeks and 1 day after her 30th birthday she passed away. The feelings that you go through as a parent losing a child is immeasureable........I could never imagine anything hurting as much as the pain that I have experienced over the past 2 years. The pain is so great at times that I have to literally catch my breath somedays in order to move forward.

However, I have the hope of the resurrection according to Acts 24:15 and that hope is so real to me until this is what has gotten me through these past two years. I know that seeing her suffer is something that I will never forget.....we truly believed that maybe-just maybe we might beat this......I am also an advocate for mammograms even before the age of 40. I truly believe that young girls/women should be properly taught how to feel for lumps, bumps, or anything else in your breast(s) that don't feel right. When in doubt-check it out! I am so glad to know that this site is available and I can talk with others who have endured one of the most painful losses in mankind's history.............

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Dec 20, 2011
My loss...Losing a teenager aged 19 years of age
by: Jaydean

The loss of a child is devastation to parents. Life is never, ever the same. You live in a mist, that's the only way I can explain.

Dec 19, 2011
from California....
by: Anonymous

I lost my son 16 months ago to is a hideous disease. He was 23 years and 27 days old and had so much to live for. I mourn him every second of the day. I have this quote from Marsha Flynn Abbott hanging above my work desk and it describes how I feel. "Recovering from loss? I'm not sure anyone can be expected to recover from the death of their child; considering the value of what was lost and the consequences of that loss. I think recovery is a misleading and empty expectation. We recover from broken limbs and bad illnesses. This type of loss goes into the category of catastrophic...Catastrophic loss by definition precludes recovery. It will either transform us or destroy us, but it will never leave us the same. There is no going back to the past. The future will, and must include the pain of the past with it. Sorrow never entirely leaves the soul of a parent who endures the death of a child. If anything, it takes us to a deeper place in which we have the opportunity to come face to face with....the soul."

Dec 17, 2011
Very sorry for your loss..
by: Vickie

I am truly sorry for the loss of your daughter. The pain that we suffer and have to endure is immeasurable as well as nearly unbearable. I lost my 26 old daughter two yr's ago and the second yr. was more difficult than the first. I am entering the third yr. -third Xmas w/o her and Still the pain is so fresh. There have been days that were better than two yr's ago, but this time of yr. is Extremely Hard. I hope that you can find peace and comfort for even a short bit. This is All so exhausting. Will keep you in my prayers. God Bless You-Vickie

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