Child nine of 14

by Vanessa L. Richardson
(Culpeper, VA)

Although it was expected somewhat - there was still shock and disappointment when my daddy passed just one month ago. I tried to bargain with him to stay alive until Thanksgiving - thinking that if we could just get through Thanksgiving, then I could bargain with him through Christmas and through the New Year 2011. My father had other plans, and my first thought was "he left me". But he did not leave just me, I have 12 brothers and sisters and he and my mom spent over 63 years in a committed marriage.

My dad was a great provider, a humble man, very patient and kind. He spent his life working for over 40 years to ensure that we had what we needed. I cried yesterday for the second time since that first day I heard that he was gone. I was on my way to see him and I thought he would wait until I arrived at the hospital with the others living out of town, but my daddy left me. I am comforted that he is no longer suffering, and I miss him all the same.

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Nov 22, 2010
its just not fair!
by: janice

I lost my dad too... a month ago. We watched him get steadily worse in hospital and then in itu. When he first became ill we never for a moment thought it would be as serious as it turned out. He was in itu for 12 days but we still had hope right up to the last day... even if we were a bit naive!! I feel that i am only just beginning to believe that he is gone.

When they took the ventilator away i still thought "they wont get rid of him that easy" so strong was my belief in my father. I miss him every day but i hurt most for my mam left on her own without him. in my title i said it isn't fair ... but i think it is fair its the progression of life. It just hurts like hell!

Nov 21, 2010
by: Anonymous

losing my dad was expected but still hard. he had lung cancer and we knew that there was nothing that we could do to stop him from leaving us. it was really hard having to go to the hospital everyday and seeing him get even more sicker and sicker every day. when that day come to us having the news it took me until i saw my sister to actually get upset even though i knew that this was a bad time.
i feel that writing my feelings down really helps me deal with this and i recommend people to do this too to help them cope.

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