Children, lost to me

by Hamilton

Family includes children
We were married 10+ years and had children together.
My son was first born of seven generations.
First years of marriage were good.

She has gone, 15+ years ago and I feel good about that.

We arranged that I could see my children. Agreed in Court.
She took them to another country. Their ages 3 to 9.
She prevented visits for now more than 15 years.
Laws are difficult. She behaved selfishly.
Other men have spent $100,000 to $800,000 Family Court costs to see their children as they are legally entitled. I do not need to spend money to show her for what she is.

My children have been away for so long that they are no longer mine. They are hers, they are adults. No word of them in 10+ years.
There is no way I would be able to meet them again.
I could not do it. The emotional trauma would destroy me.

So much better to move on.
I married again and we have a son.
She is more wife than the first one ever was or could be.
(but I live in the present without caring for the future)
He is my son, and I am happy with him.

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Jul 12, 2012
by: Debra

My father left my brother and I when we were just small children. It has been - probably 58 years now. I hoped I would hear from him when I graduated high school, I hoped I would hear from him when I got married. I hoped I would hear from him when I gave him grandchildren. I hoped I would hear from him when I buried his two grandchildren. Silence. You never know what is in the heart of your child. My mother raised us - well, sort of but there was always that missing piece. He didn't even like us but it didn't matter. A card - anything. Maybe he felt like you - too much time had passed - for him, maybe -- for me, no I am still waiting.

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