Chris J.

On June 15, 2012 my Mom passed away. She had been sick for over a year with colon cancer and dementia. 20 years ago she had her first bout with colon cancer and we thought she had beaten it but it came back. She went through two surgeries in less than one week, which added greatly to her dementia. I guess we were lucky to have had her for an extra year. I was not at her side when she died but arrived an hour after. The paramedics had tried to revive her and had to leave her on the floor with the tracheal tube still inserted until the medical examiner was to have arrived, which in the end didn't happen. This is not the way you want to remember your beloved Mom, so undignified. I thought I was coming to terms with her death when my Dad suffered a massive stroke on August 10, 2012. He lived for five days in hospice, he never regained conciousness. I stayed with him all the time and held him as he breathed his last. This was the most profound experience of my life and also the saddest, I believe I actually felt him leave. I played nature sounds and music softly for him, spoke with him and stroked his hair, told him to go to Mom, she was waiting for him. I know he died of a broken heart, he and Mom had been married for 65 years and he was her caregiver for the last year. I know they are in a better place but I am so sad still, I don't cry, I wish I could, is this abnormal?. I am angry a lot of the time. I just hope that I can work through my grief, I guess time will heal.

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Nov 19, 2012
May God Wrap His Arms Around You
by: Terri from Hickory, NC

Wow, your story hits home so much, I lost my son to a drug overdose on the very day your mom past and also when I got to the hospital, he still had the trumpet in his nose and was still bleeding from it, the paramedics really beat him up trying to bring him back, its a sight I never will never forget. His name was Kyle, he had just turned 24 years old and leaves behind a 7 year old precious little girl, he was my 1st born son and my clone, looked just like me, acted just like me. I can only hope one of our loved ones took him by the hand and led him to heaven, he struggled so much here on earth. I cant imagine losing my mom and my dad within 2 months time. Im sure your dad was left here with a broken heart after your mom past, no one can imagine being together that many years in this day and time, that is something you can cherish the rest of your life knowing they were happy together and couldn't live apart. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you have other family to hold on to. My dad suffered a light stroke last Thursday but he is OK, he suffers from dimentia and parkinsons desease, my mom past Christmas 2008. I can tell you that I have found some peace and strength in prayer and I also write to Kyle in a journal that has helped me in my journey of grief. Nothing will ever take the pain away of losing my son. And your pain will remain as well, we just have to get through it if God chooses to keep us here on earth to carry on. Good luck to you as you go through this, it will be a long journey but hopefully will get better, God Bless You

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