Christopher James aged 20 Sheffield England

by David Staniforth
(England)


My son Chris died on May 12th 2011, the cause of death was a pulmanory embolism as a result of a DVT - This means that a blood clot formed in his calf and then traveled to his lung which killed him. He was heavily involved in IT and loved playing long sessions on his Xbox - playing in team games with his peers all over the country and also on the US and Canada. by being sat still in one place he died - please look up and learn about DVT and if you can and possibly pass on the message. I am Christophers father David and together with his friends we are working to publish a website called www.taketimeout.info - we dont want people to stop playing the games but to raise awareness to take a break and move around. I believe we are at the start of a huge problem because as the games become more compelling the sessions will last longer. I want to let the world know that E Thrombosis is emerging as a serious concern - its the same issue as DVT in long haul flights which most people have heard about and take precautions. it is perfectly understandable that whilst parents would prefer their kids to be outside playing or taking part in physical activity, they feel comfortable knowing that their child is safe in his room on the computer. I love my son very much and wish this was not true but it is. thank you for this wonderful site and to all others who find themselves grieving for a loved one - God Bless You.

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Feb 08, 2013
Les Miserables
by: Pat,, Alan,Diane,Adam,Hollt

We went to see Les Miserables and felt very, very sad when Hugh Jackman sang "Bring him Home". We remembered that this was Christopher's favourite song fron third musical. We will never forget you Chris. God Bless

Aug 24, 2011
Condolences
by: Anonymous

I am sorry for the loss of your son. I can only imagine how hard it is coping with a loss based on an activity your son loved. Consider me one more person made aware of this tragic condition.

Aug 16, 2011
www.take-time-out.info
by: David Staniforth

The take time out site is now fully live if you would like to learn more about the risks of DVT with a focus on gaming.

Thank you for all of the supportive comments

David

Aug 02, 2011
heart felt
by: Sarah

My heart goes out to you both for your loss, I can only offer my condolences but i will say that you are both strong in heart and soul to not hate, but to try and tell others what have happened in order to try and prevent or at least be aware of this affliction.
I would like to give you both a huge comfort hug and send you everything i can to help you through this.

Aug 01, 2011
Thoughts are with you
by: Promoting Thought

You two are amazing people you must be, to go through something like this and to decide to make something good come of a terrible situation is a beautiful reminder of what the human spirit can do.

Even the Suns twisting of your words can not take away from the fact you are highlighting an important issue that claims a lot of lives every year and affects hundreds of thousands of people.

What you are enduring is beyond imagining, what you are feeling I do not want to even try and comprehend, and yet from all of this you just want to do some good and try to make sure other people avoid this fate. There are many lesser people who would seek to lay blame or anger at another's feet.

Where ever your son is, I am sure he is proud of you right now. Good luck to you both and I hope that in this campaign you find peace and solace or at least a little comfort.

Aug 01, 2011
Thank you
by: David Staniforth

Thank you for your kind comments - working really hard to get the site up - please visit take-time-out. info we hope to get the forum going soon,
if you can comment it makes the issue real and very much in the public eye

Aug 01, 2011
United Kingdom
by: ruth christoffersen

May I offer my sincere condolences on the death of your son. my daughter died of a flight-related DVT in 2000 - her death brought much publicity around the world - although her death was flight-related the underlying cause was sitting still - until a tragedy happens people are unaware of the consequences of sitting still - I applaud you for going public with your grief and I trust your campaign will help you to cope with your loss. May I please make a suggestion...speaking to classes in school would be a good way of letting people know of the dangers (if you can have access)- until recently I worked in a secondary school and I spoke to many classes about sitting still and pupils sitting on their feet.I appreciate how difficult this is for you but I trust you can gain comfort knowing what you are doing can prevent this happening to another family. Regards

Jul 31, 2011
DVT and PE Awareness
by: Chris Drummond

So sorry David and family to read of your loss, I have two sons either side of his age and cannot imagine what you are going through.
I am 50 years of age, and am relatively fit and healthy with no illness as such through my life to speak of, but last Sunday (24th July) on the first day of my holiday in the South Of France I collapsed coming off the beach and stopped breathing for four minutes on the pavement.
Whilst I was with my wife and daughter (my wife is a nurse) I was lucky to have had the assistance of a passing doctor and her husband who got me breathing again.
Later that night in hospital I was diagnosed with a DVT and resulting PE. This is something that I had never appreciated could be so fatal and age indiscriminate, and was probably as a result of driving to the South of France, although my job involves driving and I am convinced this has been a timebomb waiting to happen. In my case I bent down to tie my shoe lace before leaving the beach, probably releasing the clot at that time.
I am fortunate to be making a recovery with excellent French care but still do not know when I will be able to return to the UK.
However when I do I would like to help you with the quest of widening awareness of this affliction as it must make a difference. I hate to think how many people at this time of year push themselves like I did by driving long stints, to get away on holiday with the family,not aware of the slightest possibility of the risk.
So sorry to make contact under these circumstances but I felt compelled to email and offer my help and support.
I will be in touch when the website is operational and I am back home.
So sorry again for your loss.

Jul 31, 2011
My Sympathy
by: Benjamin Blakely

I count myself as a gamer, though in truth the drive for it is coming to an end. Your son sounded like a young man full of promise, and that through gaming he was able to find himself a career path that looked hopeful. You have my sincere condolences and sympathy for your loss.

Jul 30, 2011
God bless.
by: Anonymous

Hi I'm 12 years of age and I'm sorry for your loss!

I have an xbox as well I go on it quite often sadly when you go on a games console ( xbox ) its very hard 2 keep track of time. Also it's extremely hard to turn the console off, to make matters worse when you are gaming you don't feel hunger or thirst which makes u dehydrated and gives you headaches.

It's totally true what you said in the sun newspaper, that persons should have breaks and get some fresh air in your system (at least every half an hour you spend on u should spend off)

Thank you for raising this issue, I'm now not going spend as much time on game consoles. My heart is with you all and god bless.

Jul 30, 2011
Post Your Story
by: David Staniforth

That last post ref DVT please look at www.take-time-out.info the site is still under construction but you can still post your story soon we will have a forum - your messages will drive the site
Thank You
David

Jul 30, 2011
DVT AND GAMING
by: Anonymous

I'm really sorry to hear about your son David and found this page and your page after reading the article in The Sun newspaper. Awareness to this problem is a must!!!! My son became interested in on-line gaming (computer and Xbox) at the age of 14. It started off with him visiting the local internet cafe and playing with other like minded people. They would often have regular holiday all day gaming sessions. As a parent living in an area known for its drug and alcohol issues with youngsters I was relieved that he had not fallen into the bad circles that so many young people had.

My son is 22 now. Gaming is his whole existence. He has had a DVT but luckily I noticed the signs immediately and got him into hospital where he had 4 months of treatment. Doctors gave him hope that the condition may be genetic but we have no doubt that it was caused by his addiction to gaming. The only time he leaves his bedroom is to go to the toilet, get food and occasionally to pop to the local shop. He went from being an A grade student to failing his degree. We only realised that this was a problem when he got the DVT. We then issued an ultimatum about his internet usage only to be met by crying and shaking (very similar displays to those who go cold turkey off drugs).

DVT is an issue that needs a raised awareness but we also need to make young people aware that playing these games for 8 or more hours at a time is dangerous day in and day out.
My son is now going to counselling. he has no social skills, and it is unlikely that he will get a job or be able to function in the real world. All he knows is how to game.
We really must make parents aware of the dangers. I thought that I was keeping my son from the perils of life but in reality I was helping him to just exist.

Jul 29, 2011
DVT AWARENESS
by: David Staniforth

Thank you for all of your wonderfull comments. the lady whos son was also called Christopher. I am very sorry to hear your tragic news - my heart goes out to you all - I HAVE MANAGED TO GET A FEATURE IN THE SUN NEWSPAPER ABOUT THE PROBLEM TOMORROW 29 / 7/ 11 PLEASE TRY AND GET A COPY IF YOU CAN CONTRIBUTE - PLEASE DO - LETS WORK TOGETHER AND RAISE AWARENESS WHAT IS HAPPENING.
Working now on the awareness website take-time-out.info keep visiting because its only just started and your story will help get the message across
David

Jul 19, 2011
dvt
by: Anonymous

my son took a dvt 11 years ago he was never on a computer but he had ingrown toenails removed and the doc told him to treat whithin 3 days he took a blood clot in his leg he was put on warfarin and every time they took him off it he took another blood clot so he was kept on it permanent. 4 weeks ago we got a call from his wife telling us he died in his sleep we dont know the reason yet we have to wait 8 to 10 weeks but they let the cremation go ahead i moved from scotland 2o years ago to england my other 2 kids moved with me but my eldest wanted 2 stay there with his wife and kids so i feel guilty leaving him we did visit twice a year and kept the kids for them all summer holidays we kept in contact by phone mostly the last few years as i havent been well. the last time i saw my son was last august as we had a caravan near where he lived i gave up the caravan before my son died as i had problems traveling i really feel i could have done more for him he was my eldest 41 i am heartbroken people say u learn to go on but i cant see that i am so sorry for mothers who lose there kids god bless x

Jul 18, 2011
Some advice for parents and computer users
by: Anonymous

David, thanks so much for sharing the tragic story of your son's death. My condolences to you on your loss.

As a nurse, I felt I should offer a little info and some advice for anyone who sits at a computer or video game screen for hours at a time.

When you sit without moving your legs for longer than an hour or two without getting up, like at a desk, video game or long airline flight, the blood tends to pool in your lower legs. It can actually clot there, and is called a DVT (deep vein thrombosis). If it stays in your leg, it is painful, but usually not life-threatening. The problem is that the clot can break loose and travel through the veins to the lungs (pulmonary embolism) or the brain (stroke). Either can be fatal.

The answer to the problem is to get up and walk just for a few moments every hour or so. Walking works the muscles which milk the blood back up to the heart before it can clot.

There is a very good way this can be prevented: a computer alarm or freestanding alarm that is capable of being set to sound a chime every hour to remind you to just stand up and take a few steps. This habit could save your life.

So if you work online for hours at a time, order a computer alarm clock software, works in your computer (make sure it has capability of hourly chime). Parents, find an inexpensive alarm capable of hourly alarm for your video-crazy kids. It must be capable of setting and forgetting, or they wont reset it. You can Google for both items.

Hope this helps.
Jennie

Jul 18, 2011
I Lost my son too.
by: Anonymous

My boy died on June 25 2011. We are devastated. I am in a wheelchair and will take your good advice by moving my legs about more. You are not alone in your grief, let us help you. God bless and comfort us both, my friend.

Jul 18, 2011
Chris' mum
by:

I am in shock, this is unbelievable, and an amazing coincidence.
My son also named Christopher died on 12.05.2011 age 21 by a pulmonary embolism.
My Chris was also involved heavily in IT, and worked as a graphic artist.
Could someone else be going through the exact same tragedy, could that be possible?
We miss our boy more than words can express.
The pain is never ending, our world will never be the same without him.
The cause of Christopher's death is even more painful, because it could so easily have been avoided.
In the midst of your pain, you have found the courage to help others, and you must be commended.
You are onto something unbelievably important. You are right, DVT is on the rise and
people should be educated of the consequences.

I wish you every success, I am looking forward to seeing your new website creation.
Please keep us posted.

Jul 11, 2011
our beautiful children
by: Anonymous

I lost my 23 year old son 11 months ago to leukemia/septic shock. It's a terrible world we are left to live in without our children. All I can say is that it is a "one step, one breath" at a time process.
Shirley

Jul 10, 2011
We are all together
by: MOM

So sorry for your loss. I also lost my only child April 3,2011 he had just turned 40 in March. he had a heart attack caused from HIGH BLOOD SUGAR. He was my life and my world. I still just can't hardly believe he is gone. Everyone I have talked to that has lost a child tells me I will never get over it but it will get some better in dealing with it. I know that I certainly hope so. I have never had such misery and hurt, and right now I can't see any end to it. It is the first thing I think of when I open my eyes of the morning and the last thing I think of when my eyes close at night. So as you have seen from this web site we are all in this together. Even though we don't know each other we try to help one another through some of the hurt and misery, just by talking to one another through this site. GOD BLESS YOU AND HELP YOU THROUGH

Jul 10, 2011
son
by: sarah

so sorry for you i lost my son on 18 of june and still no reason he was 41 and just died in his sleep he had a blood clot for 12 years and took warferin but post mortom cant find the cause of death we got to wait another 8 weeks take care and god bless

Jul 10, 2011
Parents Never Know What To Do
by: TrishJ

I'm so sorry for your loss. We as parents never know what to do where our children are concerned. Although it doesn't ease the pain at all please know that your son is in God's caring arms. I worked as an OB nurse when early on in my nursing career. I would hold the newborns and wonder what God had in store for each one. God's plan was for your son to be with you for 20 short years. It's hard for us to understand why he takes such good people so young. He will be forever young and loving for you. The pain is overwhelming some days but we just do the best we can. I'm 7 months into losing my beloved husband and still am having too many days where I'm not doing so good.

Grief is a rough journey. We grieve so hard because we loved the person so much. We miss their physical presence. We just want to be able to hug them and tell them we love them one more time. They know we love them. They're watching over us. We will see them again some day. I hope you find comfort in your beautiful memories of your wonderful son. Always remember......he would want nothing but happiness for you in this life. Try to smile for him. The tears will come. The sad days will come and that's OK.
God bless.
PJ

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