Club 27

by Cindy
(Chilliwack, BC, Canada)

Club 27
by: Cindy

On March 30th 2013 I was told my only son was dead. He had been at a party and had been drinking heavily. He was an ex heroin user but had been clean for 3 months. Then he met a couple girls and they had a party at their house. My boy went out the back door and met someone in a black car. He came back in with what we think was a drug called Dilaudid.
From what I understand he crushed them and snorted them. He was awake and responsive for quite some time and even said he was hungry. His new friend made chicken soup but before he could eat it he fell asleep on her bed. She said he was snoring so she put his legs up and turned him on his side. She crawled in beside him and hugged him then fell asleep.
When she woke up she said he felt cold so she pulled up the blankets and got up to shut the window. When she turned back to go to bed she says she realized his face was blue. My son was dead at 27 years old. I am crazy with loss and I honestly believe this loss is killing me slowly.

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Dec 13, 2013
My First Christmas Without You.
by: Cindy

This will be my First Christmas without you Duncan. Then I face your first birthday in January when you would be 28. The end of March will mark your passing of one year. A bit too much to get through I feel at times, but my god I have made it through the last 9 months somehow so I guess I will make it through the next 4.
I still cry for no reason other than you are my reason. My brave face melts like hot wax when I hear certain songs on the radio or when I shop for your dad and think how I will never shop for you again. Yes I have put 6 pretty blue butterflies on the tree for you since you were born on January 6th. But I will never pick you up a new sweater and watch you blush when Carley and I tell you how handsome you look.
But I am doing my best. Just not every day. And I know that is ok too as long as try to do something.
I wonder will you have Christmas in Heaven? I like to believe you are still with me and at times I swear I feel you near me. Your sisters will be hear this Christmas. We will all go to the cemetery on Christmas day so they can see your stone. That will be a hard one but we will leave and come back home to a warm house and fill your nieces and nephews with love.
I miss you my son. I love you and my heartaches for the loss of you.
Merry Christmas Duncan. I hope you Dance in Heaven.

Aug 15, 2013
Drug overdose
by: Melanie

Hello,
My name is Melanie. There is a book on Amazon Called when a child dies from drugs. This will help you. There is a support group called grasphelp.org. This stands for grief recovery after substance passing.Parents all over the world are on here. We will support you and welcome you. The book was written by parents that lost their 6th daughter to a heroin overdose. I found my 23 year old son after 12 hours with a needle beside him. Please feel free to email me. Melaniekay53@ yahoo.com. I feel your pain. The book saved my life. It walks you thru the stages. Your life will forever me changed. He is now addiction and pain free. I am sorry for your loss. please feel free to email me.

May 03, 2013
OD
by: Eba

I feel so sorry for you my dear mothers ,I feel your pain coz I lost my youngest child on 2/21/2011 , was only 27 ,he was heroin addicted ,but he never make trouble or hurt anyone of his family ,I miss him like crazy my son was very polite ,generous loved everybody ,and I lost my sweet heart ,,not one day I don't think of him,, my life is not normal anymore ,I want to be with him and I committed ?????but my eldest daughter n my other son n my husband called 911 and took me to the hospital ,,,yes I was truly selfish to kill myself coz my other children loves me too ,,and they need me as well ,,,

May 03, 2013
Club 27
by: Cindy

I am so sorry for all of your loss's. We are a group of devastated parents and I did not realize until I became a member that this group was so large, so open. I wish none of us we here. I wish we had our children back, but that will never happen so I wait for him to just give me a sign that he is ok. That he has peace. But nothing. I just empty. It's like there is a gaping hole that runs from my throat to the pit of my stomach and not even the tears that I cry can start to fill that horrible void.
I hope we can all talk as we are now for ever or for as long as each of us needs to. I am so glad I found the site. Even though it is full of painful post's, I have found some strength by reading about the stages of grief and by realizing I am not alone at all.
Thank you all for your prayers. You have mine also.

May 03, 2013
Your son
by: Kate

I'm so sorry but words do not help I know. I lost my son to alcohol and cocaine. he was not addicted,just did it with " friends" and died . I am devastated ! I know you are too. It has been 5 months and I don't know how I go on. Grief is horrid. My heart goes out to you. On here we understand one another. Love and care to you.s

May 02, 2013
lost a son from drugs
by: may perez

HI CHILLIWACK, I TOO LOST A SON ALMOST TWO MONTHS THIS
MONTH. HE DIDN'T DIE FROM DRUGS HE HAD A HEART
ATTACK HE WAS ONLY FORTY. THAT DAY WAS THE WORST DAY
OF MY LIFE WHEN I RECIEVED A MESSAGE THAT HE HAD PASSED.
I DIED WITH HIM THAT DAY. MY SON LEFT A WIFE AND FOUR KIDS
BEHIND. NO MATTER HOW OUR SONS' DIED WE ARE ALL HURTING
SO MUCH, THAT NOTHING SEEMS HAPPY, OR THINGS THAT OUR FAMILY USE TO DO , SEEMS LIKE IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE ANY
MORE. SINCE THE DAY HE DIED MARCH 15 I'VE BEEN CRYING UP UNTIL NOW. SO PLEASE IF YOU NEED TO CRY ALL DAY IT'S OK.
IT HELPS ME EASE A LITTLE PAIN WHEN I CRY, BUT IT'S OK AS LONG AS I CAN GET OVER THIS GRIEF. I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE
COMING DAYS AND YEARS, MAY GOD HEAR YOUR PRAYERS AND
MY PRAYERS SO WE COULD BE HAPPY PARENTS AGAIN. MAY GOD
BLESS.

May 02, 2013
HUGS to you mom
by: Marcie

I too lost my son due to drugs he OD and and died on 2/21/13. It is the worst thing I have ever went threw myself. I feel like I died that day too. I just don't know how to go on yet. You're in my thoughts and prayers. I do believe in prayer and without it wouldn't be here. So sorry for your loss

May 02, 2013
Club 27
by: Doreen U.K.

Cindy I am sorry for your loss of your young son at 27. What a horrible experience to go through with losing a son so tragically to a sudden death. Your grief will be so hard no matter how old your son was. This type of grief is the most painful experience you will ever go through. I can't believe my loss of husband 1yr. now. It is the worst experience of my life.
Life will never be the same for any of us. Drugs KILL. It is only a matter of time when using will become such a dependency that a person cannot exist without drugs. A mother will therefore live with such FEAR worrying each day and hoping her child will find freedom from drugs, and go on to live a normal life. But sadly this is not happening. More and more we hear of people dying. Look at Whitney Houston, Michael Jackson. Elvis and many others who could not find Victory from drugs which ended their life so tragically. Leaving behind a trail of wounded people mourning their loss. My heart goes out to you and all the other people who have lost their Adult children so young to death. It seems that this is an on going battle and struggle for parents. A mother will always worry about her children as we are living in such a harsh and painful world spiralling out of control. May God comfort you and give you Peace in your pain and loss of your son.

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