Comfort Zones and Grief
I was on FB just a while ago at another site for widows and widowers. People keep wanting everyone to go the the .org site and not post on FB. We all have comfort zones even when we are grieving the loss of our spouse that we do not want to move away from. Those comfort zones are what keeps me safe right now. I am sure that there will come a day when I am ready to move out of some of them but it is not now.
I am just now getting to the point where I do not cry when I look at his picture and can say Good morning to him when I walk into the living room and look at the box that holds his ashes.
We all move at our own pace and some us move slower or faster than others. Let us move at the pace we feel most comfortable with. Understand if we are posting to a site on FB it is because that is where we feel comfortable and also safe and is our safetynet at this point in time. People do not judge us if we had a bad day or the loneliness is unbearable some days. They accept us for who we are and for what we are going through. Cyber HUGS beat not getting any kind of a HUG at all. FaceBook friends sometimes are better than not having any at all. I think I will take my FaceBook friends over most of my so called friends here in the States because they are dealing with the same thing that I am dealing with and they show care and compassion even if it is on the internet.
One breath, one step and one day at a time.