Confused

by Shawn
(Binghamton)

Well hello everyone I'm new to this site. Well basically I was with a girl for 8 years and we have had our ups an downs. She left me the first time I date another girl that lasted a year and she came back. Then she left again bcc she needed space and shit so I have it to her. Well then she came back again and we decided to get an apartment together and move on. Things got a little rough here and there but I wasn't too bad. Then we got an opportunity to get a house together. So we had started to work on it and she became very distant and moody and I still don't know why. So we are just about to move in and she breaks up with me......again!! So I had to move back in with my parents and I have been a wreck. This is the third time she has done this. I'm so hurt and idk what to do with myself. Part of me misses her and part of me Hates her. There is more to the story but it's little stuff. But for now I just need to know what to do with myself. I'm miserable then happy then miserable again and I absolutely can't stop thinking about her no matter what I do. I picture her having sex with all these guys bc that's what's she does and I just can't take it. What should I do!!!!!!!!

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May 03, 2012
Getting better
by: Anonymous

Well it's been about a month since she left and im still hurt but I'm getting there. Like I said it just sucks that it had to end like this especially since we were gonna get a new house. It sucks but I guess god does things for a reason. I miss her but your right I don't deserve someone that treats me like that. I will always love her but it's time to move on and forget her. The only problem is.....how?

May 02, 2012
one thing at a time
by: Anonymous

Okay, one day at a time. You must be in control of you. What she does is because of her flawed character. It's not going to change. She is who she is until she can recognize she nees help. Until then work on you. You can't possibly want a girl back that dose nothing but degrade herself and hurts you. No "piece" is worth that. I don't know your age but it sounds like you have some maturing to do as well. You begin by one step at a time. First you decide you why you would ever just settle for some girl that humiliates you. Then, after you see you don't want or need that kind of girl , you take small steps going to places that young women go. Then you make small conversation , nice day, nice place and take it from there. Get to know someone before you hop in the bed with them. Get to know what they think about things, herself, her aspirations and you share your ideas as well. Before you know it you'll have a relationship built on friendship, things in common and respect. You must also have self control in order to accomplish this.

Apr 30, 2012
True
by: Anonymous

That sounds like a good idea the only thing is I don't go to a lot of party's and stuff. And I really don't know how to approach a girl and talk to her and stuff ya know. Because I with the same girl for 8 years its hard. I just don't know how someone could be so heartless and just not care about me anymore and say screw u and do this to me 3 times. I am just hurt and saddened by this. Its like I lost my soul mate. I just hate thinking about her all the time it's killing me. I don't know what to do. The morning sucks cause I just keep thinking what could she be doing where she is not missing me. And the rubber band thing sounds good but I would need about 100 of them a day cause she is ALWAYS on my mind lol. It sucks!!!!!

Apr 30, 2012
Behave your way Out of This
by: Anonymous

Shawn, please think about what you are saying. You too need to just go party and find another girl to just talk with and be your charming self. You will make it without a loose woman . She could end up wit an STD or pregnant. WHY on earth would you want a girl like that?Z!!! Put a rubber band around your wrist and whne you find you are begiinnning to think about her pull that rubber band real hard and let it snap back on your wrist to make you snap out of it. It's a reminder of how much she hurt you.

I know where of I speak. We must behave our way out of a terrible realtionship. If need be sit down and make two lists, one of all the good things you had and then all the bad things you shared. I bet the bad outweighs the good.
Please remember one thing: Good sex or passion is not love . It's what you have in common after the sex that makes a relationship.

Apr 29, 2012
Still hurt
by: Anonymous

Your right about that. It's just sooooo hard because we did everything together ya know? And for some reason every morning I wake up I always think about her which is worse. I've been trying to keep myself busy but it sucks. It's like she has her own place living it up having parties and stuff and I'm stuck at home being sad and depressed cause I miss her. It's hard. I don't know how to stop either. It's like no matter what she put me through which was ALOT I can't stop thinking about her. And she is not coming back at all bc she is just heartless even though I want her to come back. But then I don't. I just don't know what to do! These feelings are killing me.

Apr 29, 2012
BE UNCONFUSED
by: Anonymous

WHAT EVER YOU DO ..DON'T TAKE HER BACK .
ASK YOURSELF " WHY DO I WANT SOMEONE WHO HAS SUCH LOW SLEF ESTEEM THAT SHE WILL BED ANYONE WHO SAYS SHE'S PRETTY, SEXY OR WHAT EVER JUST FOR THE ASKING. WHAT IF SHE BECOMES PREGNANT AND TELLS YOU IT YOURS? YOU MUST GET YOUR OWN SELF ESTEEM BACK AND STOP HER FROM EVER BEING IN YOUR LIFE AGAIN. SHE IS POISON TO YOU. YOU MUST REFUSE TO SEE HER.
YOU WILL FIND ANOTHER GIRL WHO WILL BE FAITHFUL AND CARING IF YOU DON'T STAND IN YOUR OWN WAY.

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